My husband and i have 2 beautiful girls ( Ages 11 and 8 ) We have been trying for a 3rd since our youngest was 1. I have had numerous tests in the past... because we've suffered from 8 miscarriages ( all before our youngest was born ) The doctors say that our oldest was our 1 in 10 chance of having a child "without help". By this I mean that my body completely shuts down at the start of my second trimester ( it won't complete the Homone transfer From the ovaries to the placenta) When I was pregnant with my youngest the Drs made me take prometrium. I was able to carry the whole pregnancy without any hiccups! we have always wanted 3 children and the last 7 years have been hard... because now we are dealing with a different and of the spectrum. My husband was just diagnosed in January with positive enzymes in his sperm... and the mobility of his swimmers is down to 5%. To say that I'm crushed is an understatement. I went through a spout of depression. I am now doing a lot better and trying to be hopeful. We've been told that <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> is our only option... problem is it's going to cost upwards of $10,000. We could get a loan... but if it didn't work.... I would be reminded every month when the payment came out. That is a lot to pay for a maybe. Soooo, basically we feel like there's only 1 other option... a sperm donor. My husband is back and forth on the idea because he feels like he's somehow failed or not good enough. I have a really good friend, who is gay that has offered to help. I'm so torn only because I don't want my husband to turn around and resent me for wanting to do it. My husband would be the father, in every aspect of the word. I want another baby soooooo much... and I know he does too. I'm faced with either him resenting me for doing it or me resenting him for not letting us try... ugh.