Should you give up your best friend if your husband/wife/SO doesn't like them? My husband HATES my best friend with a passion but can't tell me why. He says he just gets a weird feeling about her!

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Fuck no! If he has NO real reason I wouldn’t i’m sorry smh.

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Absolutely. Husband/wife comes first. Unless they are generally controlling and trying to isolate you, I would respect it.

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Tbh more often than not if someone has a gut instinct that someone is bad but can’t explain why, they are right. Then again, there is a difference between a legit gut instinct to being controlling and possessive so you’d have to figure that one out on ur own hun

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No. Never. My EX fiancé hated my best friends. I didn’t care. That was his problem, not mine. Eventually he became abusive and is now an ex and I still have my friends who love and support me.

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Hell. No. I’m married and my husband doesn’t quite like my best friend (I’m 22, he’s almost 29) he hates that she’s a party girl (I’m not really, but I will party with her) and he thinks that she’s irresponsible and a bad influence. But guess what? My best friend has been there for me long before I ever met my husband and she will be there long after my husband if shit ever goes south with him. I will NEVER give up friendships for a guy again, I made that mistake with my ex and I lost a lot of really good, long term friends because of it. And guess what? I’m not with that guy anymore, so in the end was it really worth it??

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I never get on with my best friends boyfriends, she picks some real losers and has been with a couple of controlling idiots. She goes for a “bad boy” type and they always try to get me cut off, i wont budge, mates before dates and all that. 
You split up with your husband for what reason (eg, say he cheats and the side chick is pregnant) who is gunna help put your life back together? Your bestie, only she wont be there if your husband gets his way...

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My Bff and ex husband didn’t get along but honestly it was mostly him. My Bff is bisexual and it all started because he got it in his head that she wanted me.  She didn’t and doesn’t. 
Anyway she knew I wasn’t leaving my husband (at that time) and he knew I wasn’t dumping my bff so they just had to put up with each other.

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this happened when my partner and I first started dating, few months later she tried to steal him from me. I should have listened to him and ended the relationship with her then not when she tried to flirt with him and steal him lol

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So, my best friend is my ex-fiancé. (It’s a long and weird story)
After we broke up, a couple years after, I met this guy at a local volunteer organization and my ex met him a few months later when he was my date to an event. As we were leaving he goes “there’s something wrong with that dude. You need to be careful around him.”
Sure enough, guy ended up being a super predator creep to many women in our organization. He tried his shit on me and I took it to our board, so he’s now no longer on the org.
Sometimes people get those guy feelings for a reason, take what your husband says seriously. If it’s “I just don’t like her,” Well he can get over that. If it’s “this person sets off my stomach gremlin,” you should listen

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If you’re married, your partner comes first. Not your mama, not your friends, not your best friend. Use your judgement to determine if your partner is being unreasonable or abusive, and if that’s the case then you need to seek counseling or leave.

Should you give up your best friend if your husband/wife/SO doesn't like them? My husband HATES my best friend with a passion but can't tell me why. He says he just gets a weird feeling about her!

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