am i wrong???

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i am in a relationship for the past 7 months almost 8 and it aint even a real relationship... the guy is 30 im 19 and he happens to be my ex best friends uncle.. we started out as fuck buddy basically still are ig . i have no fucking clue.noone and i mean noone of his family knows about us.all my family knows of him but dont know him .. i tell him i love him all the time but all i get is love you rarely back.... we spent christmas Valentine's day and easter together but only celebrated christmas and Valentine's day.. he picks me up and we spend everynight together. we both work during the day so it works out... during the weekends and days he has his kid i stay at my familys place..his facebook dont have any relationship status but it dont say single either its just nothing.... Mine says in a relationship. He says if i were to change mine he knows id be talking to someone else..... He says we can never be official due to his ex baby mama drama and also because im his nieces ex best friend but yet doesnt want us apart.... He likes these 2 girls shit all the time and they like his shit. But he swears nothing between tbhem... I say shit all the time and his words are always the same. I wouldnt pick you up if i didnt want you or us.... Idk what to do its been making me depressed lately... Am i wrong... I love him. I wanna be with him.. Should i keep trying or give up??? if u need more info just ask... just please help..... *note he jokes with me ill find someone new or ill cheat or some bullshit that i must be a slut because im a freak but he the second guy i been with the first one was my abusive husband...... i mean i am a sex addict but i get what i need from him. i would never cheat. just that hurts hearing it from him... i love him. i want a future.... just idk what i can do if he dont want a future ... like we had a baby scare a month ago and it almost broke us up because he dont want another kid but i do but i decided to go on birthcontrol because he wouldnt have sex with me after the scare till i was on it and i cant not have sex

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He's using you for sex. This isn't a relationship. Leave and find someone better without baggage or drama.

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You’re 19 go and live!!  Stop wasting your time with this guy. He’s not taking you serious and I’m 100%  sure the relationship is going nowhere.

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Girl, you need to stand up for yourself! Have some confidence and know your worth! Don’t let him rule the roost! Get a clear picture of where you both stand. Are you’d together or just FWB? If you’s are together, tell him he needs to act like it. And if being Facebook official is important to you, then make it happen. Facebook isn’t a big deal so it shouldn’t be a big problem for it to happen. I understand he has a previous relationship with children but he also needs to think of you, not his ex.

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It seems like one of those relationships that helps you learn what u do or dont want in a relationship. Helps you decide what u will or wont tolerate. But also what u need from a partener. And i KNOW how hard it is to hear, but i dont think its him.
Of course its ur life, and u can absolutely stick around if you choose, but that would be accepting a life of uncertainty, rejection, and accepting not being respected. 
Lots of love and luck.

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i would move on to him it seems like you're just a fuck buddy and that's the only thing you'll be to him .

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i appreciate yalls feed back and it has truelly helped alot . means alot that yall have my back and are able to help. thank you so much loves

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He sounds like a Narcissist look it up they are nothing to fuck with literally. They will rip out your heart and dance on it with extreme pleasure. Narcissists do not care about anyone and he's probably raising his Daughter to be just like him. Also look up ways to manipulate his Narcissistic actions it will definitely piss them off when they realize your not wrapped around their pinky anymore.

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I think your 19 years old and you deserve a lot better. To accuse you of being a slut and cheating means he may be cheating because that’s usually how it goes. I think he’s very disrespectful towards you and he isn’t worth it. The age isn’t really an issue. My boyfriend is 31 and I’m 21. Yea it comes with complications because of age but don’t count age as a factor. I think you deserve a lot better than how he’s treating you. You deserve someone who is proud to have you and who shows you off. Not someone who keeps you hidden from everyone

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It’s probably time to face the hard truth since it’s already of concern. From what i read it seems like he uses you for sex, there of course could be some emotional attachment on some level. But at the fact that he says you 2 can’t date but you can’t be with anyone else is him wanting to be single and do what he wants while still having you.

am i wrong???

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