So I’m 15 weeks pregnant and have always had a complicated relationship with my mom. I love her and she wasn’t terrible like abusive growing up but she wasn’t nice either. I don’t feel like I can talk to her about a lot of things and we’re not super close. However, in the last year or so we have improved our relationship and can now hangout and talk some. I was hoping this baby (being kind of her first grandchild) would bring us closer and maybe even have the relationship where she comes and supports me that I always wanted.

But she was very recently diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer. It’s really encouraging they caught it so early but she has had two sisters die of breast cancer so she is very worried about it. I can’t help but think selfish thoughts about not wanting to lose her now that things are finally going well and how well she will be to be there for the baby. I’m so stressed about it it’s waking me up some nights and I can’t sleep. I’m so scared and overwhelmed because I don’t know how supportive I can be for her when I’m breaking down too. And I want to be supportive. Any advice or just words of encouragement would be so nice.