If you were me what would you do?

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So me and my boyfriend are coming up on our one year so we still clearly have things to learn about one another... But I have a big one. I was groped by my cousin when I was younger. I know it's a big deal but it surprising hasn't affected me in my adult life and I am fine with it. But I think my SO should know because we are serious. We are both 17 and were graduations high school soon and he is my first love. If you were me how long would you wait to tell him?

PLEASE NO HATE

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Whenever your ready and feel comfortable telling him! Only you know how close yalls relationship is and what yall have!

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Honestly if he didn't affect you, what's the point in telling him? I mean, it's not gonna change anything and thank God it's not worse than groping,.even tho that's disgusting in itself.

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If you feel like now is the time, do it. That is something that you should let him know, but only when you are ready.

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Tell him when you are comfortable. Don't feel rushed or pressured.

When I told my fiancé I was raped by my cousin, it wasn't until just recently. Because it was something that had to be brought on slowly. I waited until I was comfortable and could muster the right words.

Good luck! And I'm so sorry that happened to you.

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Whenever you feel ready. There is no right or wrong time for something like this. Your SO will understand how difficult it is for you to tell him. Good luck 💙

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I would tell him if you want to tell him, but you don't have to share it if you don't want to. It's totally up to you. If it's on your mind and you need to say it, then don't wait, but if you only feel you owe it to him to be honest I would say think about it some more and then decide.

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I don't think he needs to know. Whether you last or not... if you break up at some point would you want him to have that information? If it doesn't bother you or affect you now, why bring it up?

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When you feel ready to tell him!

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I don't think you need to tell him he doesn't need to know everything everything about you it is possible to tell people to much like what if you tell him and he meets your cousin and has hard feelings or something idk I wouldn't but if you do good luck wish the best

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I was molested assaulted and raped at three different points in my life. I told my boyfriend when we decided to be sexually active. At the time it was still heavily effecting me so I wanted him to know just incase something triggered me

If you were me what would you do?

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