Madness last night. Do you agree on this?

Question

I was giving my fiancé massage erratically last night.

He loved it as usual. Then all of sudden he said “ Am I in Asian Paradise?” .
It was the name of the massage place we went three months ago when I was seven months pregnant.

I saw him when we were getting couples massage, the massage girl was on him giving him a back rub which was not that comfortable to look at. After all, he said riding his back was weird but he liked it. 
He never mentioned about she was humping on his back until now!!!
When I totally flipped out on him for even bringing up that massage shop while I was doing that. It was totally different kind of things. 
He said that’s what she was doing so he looked at me when she did that. Then he shook his face at her as no. 
Then it made me more upset that instead of fixing that situation right away, first thing he did was looking at me. Why does he even need to look at me?So if I wasn’t there it was going to be continued? WTF. 
I am so disguised and wanna just go out and cheat on him or something. So Mad!!!
Anyone agree on this madness or am I overreacting?

Accepted Answer

Whoa. You sound immature. "I want to cheat on him to get back at him." That fixes nothing and creates issues in your marriage.
Perhaps he was uncomfortable with what was happening and that's why he was looking at you. But guys are too macho to admit it.
It sounds like this whole thing is being blown out of proportion and is a big fight for no reason.
Both of you need to grow up and mature in your relationship.

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I DEFINITELY think you’re overreacting. 
1. He probably looked at you for confirmation of what was going on & probably hoped YOU would say something to her because he was uncomfortable. 
2. You should be PROUD he rejected it. Some men would’ve just let it keep going & enjoy it. 
3. He probably just told you now because he knew you would react EXACTLY like you did & blame it on him. 
4. You need to work on your jealousy & anger. Why would you automatically go to the thought of cheating because of this? He did not show any affection to her & made her stop. 
It’s not his fault that this nasty ass women did that. He can’t control others actions. He did put a stop to it & didn’t let it continue. 
I personally think he deserves an apology from you. You reacted wayyy too harsh in this situation that was not caused by him. 
You should be pissed this hell off at the massage person & should’ve complained & left that place immediately.

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My husband would’ve looked at me first too.....to see how high in the air my slap was coming at her from LOL. 
I don’t think it’s such a bad thing he looked at you before reacting to it. He was probably trying to see if it was really going on. And perhaps him bringing it up was just an attempt at humor....poorly timed and not the best humor. 
But “going out and cheating” isn’t the answer. It shouldn’t even be a thought.

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My first thought wasn’t that he thought it was more and didn’t want to get caught, but rather he was caught off guard and maybe wasn’t sure if he was over reacting. Perhaps he was looking to you not because he was afraid of being caught, but because he wanted your opinion and support. I think the fact that he told her not to do that, is incredibly respectable, and shouldn’t make you mad at him. Maybe he hasn’t known how to tell you, because he didn’t want you to get mad at him. 
He told her no when he could have just let her continue. I would think that should make you proud of him. 
I absolutely don’t think he would have continued if you hadn’t been there. 
My opinion girl to girl is that you’re over reacting.

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I think that is very immature & uncalled for on your part. He probably looked at you to see if you would do something, or for conformation. He told her No, I would understand if he didn't say anything at all. & Also, the name sounds like give happy endings, that's a no from the start.

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Note to self: don’t go get a couples massage 😳 I’d be pissed too. Not enough to want to cheat on him but he wouldn’t be getting any massage from me for a looooong time. He definitely should have redirected that girl immediately after it started happening. Wtf.

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What the fuck is wrong with you? This was hard enough to follow, but the end threw me. Maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship.

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That’s gross. He clearly thought it was more than a massage, and instead of getting disgusted by it he brings it up when you massage him?? 
My dh had a somewhat questionable massage once (on his own) and he was really disgusted and never went back there, and immediately told me also. Just talking to him was clear he was very uncomfortable with possible inappropriateness. 
I think he is being weird but I don’t think it is a huge huge deal either. Definitely don’t go out and cheat on him! But you have every right to get mad and make sure he understands how stupid this was.

Madness last night. Do you agree on this?

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