Am I asking for too much?? (Long)

I’ve been with my man for over a year now, we’ve had many ups and downs in the beginning, but now I finally feel like we almost have this relationship thing down. We both have kids from previous relationships. His child’s mother left him for another women when their baby was 3 months old, she’s now 2. We used to be co workers, and then we reconnected, we started off as hooking up and somehow ended up developing feelings and now a year and a half later I feel like I’ve fallen in love with him.

My problem is that he’s not in love with me, he says he loves me and wants only me, he’s only been in love with 2 women in his life one being the mother of his child and he can’t tell me why he doesn’t have those same feelings for me but he loves me.

He doesn’t like to talk about the future with me, I’m finishing up with school this year and I’m excited to move in together and be a family after I’ve started my career and can afford to get a place big enough for us and our kids. he says he doesn’t want to get a place and me leave him and him be stuck paying all the bills like what his baby mama did to him.

Him and his kids mom planned a baby and had one and moved in together in less time than we’ve been together so I don’t understand why he’s so hesitant with me when all I do is try to make him happy and feel wanted, I ask him if somethings wrong with me and he says no he just doesn’t know if he’s in love with me or why he doesn’t feel that way.