questioning a divorce

iv been with my husband for 14 years and married 8 years. we have 2 kids a 7 year old and 1 year old. I. All we do is fight! we never do anything together. he works, then comes home plays on his phone, or does this or that with his friends. when i want to just get out of the house to run errands by myself he complains that he cant watch the kids because he decided that time of day he has something else to do and i can do whatever i need to do when hes at work. he also says i have no friends to even do anything with and i also dont ever want to do anything i just want to stay home all the time.. then the other day i come home from work, hes not home yet, and our dog had diarrhea on our carpet! so i use our carpet cleaner for the 1st time to get it out and it started to leak.. anyways he comes home and flips out on me because ita leaked and i should of called him to tell him what happened. he literally screamed in front our kids at me andi says i hate this just go leave get out of my face! ... i am just so hurt by how he is treating me! he acts like i deserve it! its always something! hell apologize sometimes and say hes stressed. he just acts like im dumb about everything. he gets mad if we dont have sex and is nice maybe half a day to me after that. he refuses counseling... what should i do??? divorce or suck it up for my kids? i hate to do this to them!