Feeling insecure because of what he said

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😺Natalie😺

I don't feel like talking it out with him. I am hesitant because it could just be not a big deal for him. Basically, he was getting all excited and happy for his roommate who went on a date with some exchange student who paid for movie and milkshake for his roommate. And I went like... uhh okay good for him. And he just tried to explain me why HE and his roommate get a "Pleasant surprise" that she paid for the date because it is mostly guys who have to pay a lot for dates. And I just got a bit annoyed and still cannot get over it. I doubt he even knows how it made me feel. He pays for most of our dates but I did paid for us 20% of the time too. Heck, I even pay for myself if we go out together and I get my own beuty supplies. Yet I did not get all that excited when I bought us meals and stuffs for Valentine's and other random surprise occasions. I don't know :/ I feel like why he appreciates that girl paid just for the one and only first date that much but I don't get that much appreciations like that when I did that for him and now he is bragging about it to me?

I just need to get it out of my chest to not ruin his relaxing Sunday. 😣 I'm sorry it might sound very childish if my insecurity to some of you. But I'm financially independent and just started to get my financial stable at this point. So I cannot go out and spread cash and swipe cards on all dates I go with him. But seeing him getting all excited about some girl who paid for movie and milkshake for his roommate date night is just kinda making me😞 feeling down

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Maybe he’s excited because she reminded him of you and he’s hoping his roommate has found someone as great as he has. Don’t sweat it, I doubt he was trying to make you feel bad.
Maybe he’s excited because she reminded him of you and he’s hoping his roommate has found someone as great as he has. Don’t sweat it, I doubt he was trying to make you feel bad.Maybe he’s excited because she reminded him of you and he’s hoping his roommate has found someone as great as he has. Don’t sweat it, I doubt he was trying to make you feel bad.

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😺Natalie😺 • Apr 22, 2018
Thank you for your positive view! I'm trying to not think too hard on it.

Li

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Please don’t let this change who you are...don’t start paying for dates. Yeah that’s something that may excite a man but it’s definitely not something you should be doing. As a woman, I’d NEVER pay on the first date.