My husband and I are in the process of buying a house which was necessary for us before we would TTC. But every time I talk to him about when he would want to have a baby, he’ll laugh and say we should wait 10 years. Initially it was a little joke, but now I feel like he somehow means it. When I ask him about it, he brushes it off as a joke.

I would like to TTC around the holidays of this year, but I feel like we need to figure out his concern first. I feel like this is his own stuff around his own childhood fears. I think he is also concerned that having a baby will take away his “freedom” per se. Anyone have something similar with their own partner? And what was helpful? Therapy?