*UPDATE* Too much? Am I being dramatic?

I'll try to make this as short as possible- sorry, it's long.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and two months but saw each other for three months before going official. He cheated (not physically, but was flirting and trying to get with two friends he told me he didn't have feelings for, lied to me about, and intentionally kept me a secret from them until going fb official). I didn't find out until six months later. He didn't tell me, I found out on my own. He has lied to me about multiple things (including porn), made comments/jokes about my insecurities, told me I was the "biggest" he'd date, etc. He doesn't talk to me about his feelings, he gets mad at me when I confront him about our issues, and says he's trying to but has only tried when it comes to things like coming over to my house more and being more affectionate (he's super dry).

Last night, I got upset that he didn't want to have sex, but he wanted me to give him a bj. He doesn't eat me out anymore, and I told him I wouldn't give him a bj because he never returns the favor. He used to text me saying "I wanna 👅" but he doesn't anymore. He doesn't do anything he used to do sexually, and I get off quickly now because I touch myself while he's inside me. I didn't get upset that he didn't want to have sex, I got upset because he makes me feel like he's not attracted to me when he says he is. But he doesn't do anything to make me feel like he is. He tells me how meaty my legs are but doesn't compliment me. I told him if we are to stay together, I need his help in rebuilding the self-esteem I lost after he cheated. He said OK but doesn't help any. He doesn't know how to communicate well, and that's why we can never find a resolution.

He fell asleep last night and I couldn't sleep because I kept crying and couldn't stop. He kept accidentally hitting me in his sleep so I switched my head to the other side. He woke up for a sec and got mad that I moved. So I used the bathroom again, and moved back to the first way I was laying, and he got mad again. I asked if I should just go home (it was like 1am) and he said ko and asked me why. I told him why, and he fell asleep again. So I said "I'm just going to go home" and his eyes got wide, and he loudly said "why?!" then proceeded to yell at me, saying he was "done with this shit" and tired that I complain all the time. So I left. Didn't text or call or anything. He got up at 6:30 this morning and texted me, asking if I was OK. The conversation proceeded to this:

***UPDATE***

His response:

I don't know what to do anymore. He always says this, but when we talk, he still gets upset, he still doesn't listen, he still doesn't talk. I'm the one always talking. It's been SEVEN months since I found out and he's STILL "working on it". How the fuck are you going to still not know how to fix this after seven months of being nugget about the same things, over and over and over again?! Really?!

He made TWO lists about the things I told him I needed from him. They were very general and he just thinks it's once or twice and everything's peachy. That list is fucking stupid.

He even asked to come over tonight and continued texting me like everything was fine. It's not fine. I'm not fine.