cant orgasm ?

i’ve only been having sex for a couple months and not even that regularly bc of schedules and stuff but i cant orgasm no matter how hard me & my boo try. we have amazing communication and i tell him what feels good and he gets advice from his friends but i never come. its not like i havent before, i can handle myself but i cant w him. i’ve even started shaking but still havent had those waves of orgasm yanno ? im thinking its j me but idk what it is. any tips or ideas ? ive started thinking its me and im j gonna have to live w not orgasming durinf sex (the thought almost made me cry) but he swears its him and hes working so hard to figure it out. help !

update: i forgot to mention, we’re not j having penetrative sex he has been trying clitoral stimulation orally and w his fingers but no luck :/