When it comes to your stepchildren

I used to love my stepkids as my own when they were little. Now theyre teenagers. My stepdaughter has come to live with us and has no idea how to help around the house or should I say just wont. She takes it upon herself to yell and try to discipline my kids who are her half siblings 10 years younger then her. She has no idea about finances. She will ask how much money I have on me and then calculate all the things she would buy with it and then expect me to actually buy the plan in her head. When I was growing up I never asked that. I would ask for something I already had in mind or say I have this much do you think I could get this much so I can buy this. Never asked how much money my parents had and then make a plan for their money. She wants to buy something EVERYDAY.

doesnt matter what. I know theres 4 diffent options of liquid to drink in the house but I want you to take me to the store to buy this cause I dont want any of that. Were living off loans. We dont have any extra money so these kind of demands really stress me the hell out. We have a hard time making rent and keeping the electric on but shes all about griping over small issues like no snacks or juice she wants at that moment. My income taxes were spent mostly on her. She didnt have anything when she first came here. I bought her plenty of clothes, underwear, bras, socks, personal hygiene products, lights for her room, a dresser, a mirror, pictures, school supplies,etc. 3000+dollars. I bought her a full sized bed she complained it wasnt a queen. Im always nice to her and I try to level with her and explain things to her and she can repeat what I say after I say it but then acts clueless about it later.

She doesnt properly take care of herself. She makes remarks that rub me wrong. I took her to the store before and a car had broken down in the road. The people were pushing it into the gas station and she just said"pst poor people" and shook her head. I wanted to tell her to go push their car. Meanwhile my car is 13 years old and breaking down all the time so i dont understand where she gets the snobby attitude.

Her mom doesnt have any money other then child support we pay every month and her families hand outs. Last year we got a 55 inch tv for the house with my taxes. She asked if that was a tv for rich people. There are 7 people in our house and our tv had broken so i splurged on that doesnt mean were rich. She keeps asking for a cellphone when I dont even have a cell phone. I have my phone i use with the internet but it doesnt have service. We knew she came here because she was having problems at her moms. Her mom in my opinion is not a good role model and openly talks to the kids about how she was on drugs and her sexual conquests. So my stepkids I will treat better then my kids. They dont get discipline the same they get more things. When we werent able to buy her as much and the focus went to getting my kids new beds she wanted to move back to her moms. Now the move was to much for her and she missed her friends etc. the answer was no. a week later the school found notes of her stating she wanted to die and was baker acted.

her third time being baker acted this time we realized she was using it to try to get them to let her live back with her mom. She told DCF I dont take care of my house or my kids that we are the reason shes gaining weight because shes so depressed we dont let her contact her mom or her friends. all kinds of stuff. Dcf came over to the house. She confessed with the doctors that she did all of it to go back to her moms. They were going to place her in foster care because she claimed physical abuse at her moms but it also risked my kids because she was saying i dont take care of them or the house which isnt true but had me extreamly angry.

So now its just like what will she make up next time? I didnt want her to go in foster care but I told her dad if this thing happens again I am not fighting to keep her out of it. She will not come back here. I feel bad but I cant handle her and who shes become. And were supposed to say we love them like our own and get judged if we dont. I used to love her with all my heart but now im wondering if i secretly hate her. and i was wondering if anyone else can relate?