My Brother Sexted Another Woman While With His Girlfriend...

My family got some pretty upsetting news that my brother, was sexting another woman while with his girlfriend, the mother of his children, who is also pregnant with their third.

He would sext this woman literally right in front of his girlfriend but hide his phone screen away from her and hide apps, mute notifications and all sort of insane secretive crap.

She started noticing odd behaviour but wouldn’t say anything. She would get up and the screen would change or he’d hide his screen away and just act weird in general.

She can’t see who it was or how it was being done. But eventually Gboard predictive text gave him away, Google history of “ sexting apps and free texting “ and etc.

She asks him for more information and he continues to deny it in her face, in all of our faces, despite really obvious proof.

He’s straight up admitted to it while in “ delirious “ states. He’d use drugs, get high and basically be talking to this other woman as if she was there when she wasn’t and again, this is happening right in front of his girlfriend.

He’s also talked about stuff while they would be having sex and he’d get delirious and tell her to start talking French to him. (It’s basically well known this secret chick can speak French and Spanish) and he’d try to make his girlfriend speak like her.

Now, sadly, the girlfriend is starting to question herself and wondering if sexting is actually cheating. Or if talking deeply with another woman/emotionally connecting/sexting in general is cheating because “ maybe he was using her as a way to excite their sex life and/or relationship “ but no, no, no, no.

She has blantly said that he would neglect her for hours, days, while he was sexting this girl. He would choose to masturbate to the girl, (he did get images of her) and he’d masturbate to porn, and neglect his girlfriend in general, who was begging for sexual attention and attention in general.

I’m sad. My brother’s girlfriend and I have always been close and this breaks my heart for her and I’m disgusted by him.

Can anyone here agree with how she’s trying to view things? The whole family is encouraging her to leave him, even. Our mother, father, other siblings. Nobody’s impressed, because we all know it’s cheating. But she’s hurting so bad she’s trying to see it in a different way, but he has RUINED her self esteem. She is not like she used to be. She apologizes for everything, she’s super more shy and insecure than usual, it’s like watching a really sad little girl hiding behind her Mommy but her “ mom “ would be a shadow of who she once was (confident, outgoing, etc).

I have never seen her cry this much and her newfound self hatred is heartbreaking.

Help me help her.