How to drive my bf crazy during sex

Background info:

We have been dating over a year.

We were about 6 months in when we started to try to have sex. It took my 4 months to have sex because it hurt so much and he is above average.

Every time we have sex he does all the work. He's always on top but I want to change things up. Once I tried to ride him but I couldn't. I have tried to do blowjobs but my jaw ends up hurting. Hand jobs got better but it's not enough.

How can I take control like riding him, last longer in blowjobs?