My Father-In-Law (Long) UPDATE

Well, soon to be. I love this man.

A little back story: my fiancé, Tony, is 25 with a daughter that will be one in 2 weeks, I am 34 with 3 older daughters (14, 11, and 9). I was worried how his family would respond to our relationship, especially since we did fall for one another while we were both married to other people, although we never acted on it until we separated from them. (Judge if you will, but you don't know the whole story).

Dad has hated every woman Tony has ever dated, even as a teen. None of them ever had a license or job, and always expected Tony to give them the world. He even tried to talk Tony out of the wedding up until the ceremony started. The first time his dad met his ex-wife, Tony had made dinner and they were all sitting on the couch watching tv. I guess she looked at Tony and said, "Get me water now." And immediately turned back to look at the tv. A week after finding out she was pregnant she quit her job (20 hrs a week at a daycare) because she was concerned about the pain she might eventually feel. He worked full time overnights while she sat around and did nothing, he did all the housework, laundry, cooking... everything. She also kept him from seeing his dad/brothers without her there, and always wanted to go home after 20-30 minutes.

The first time I met Dad, on accident, he was supposed to be out of town, I made breakfast for dad, his girlfriend, Tony, and both his brothers, with food I had purchased. I made everyone's plate and would not sit down myself until I knew everyone had what they needed. This is just how I have always been. When we left Dad gave me a big hug and kissed my forehead. Tony said he had never hugged any of his ex's.

A couple months after we started dating, he said he had seen Tony more in those 2 months than he had in the previous 3 years he was with his ex.

As Grandpa he is amazing with my girls, and so excited for the baby I am carrying. Last week Tony and the girls went over to visit while I was at work. He mentioned he was lacking in German chocolate (I make him cakes from scratch and he says they are the best cake he's ever had). On my next day off I made him one and dropped it off while he was at work, and got the first message a couple hours later. I also clean his house once a week now that he's single and working 70 hours a week. I'm just not feeling well today, and he's so understanding.

I know not everyone is as lucky with in-laws as I am, but I am so thankful he has accepted us as family, because he is the most important man to Tony. He's technically Tony's step-dad but Tony wants to have Dad legally adopt him and take his name. If this baby is a boy, one of his middle names will be Richard after Dad (he cried when we told him).

UPDATE: Tony and I stopped by Dad's tonight to pick up my cake plate, and he asked what my doctor said about my headaches at my appointment. Tony and I both forgot to ask the doctor because I've been fine the last couple days. We forgot, Dad remembered!!!