I can’t let go, but I’m afraid I need to.

This guy and I were together in high school for three months. He said he wasn’t looking for a relationship but would treat me like a girlfriend. Over the past four years we’d become close and fool around but the end up not talking for a couple months because he would pretty much ghost me, due to intimacy and commitment issues. We have both dated other people since the initial split, but continued to repeat the cycle of getting close and then going months without hearing from each other between seeing other people.

I am literally so in love with him and feel like he could really be the one, but it is so hard for him to show emotion and be vulnerable. It took almost three years for him to completely trust me. I’ve proven my loyalty and trustworthiness to him time and time again. Every single time that we get close to being exclusive, he gets all weird and short with the conversation to the point that I can’t keep it going by myself. So I give him space, and that’s when we end up not talking for months.

Could it be that he truly can’t commit, or is he just not that into me?