Gay or just freaky?

This guy that I am seeing, how do I say this properly, likes it in the butt? He mentioned to me that he was interested in rim jobs, I have never done such a thing but I’m open minded so I told him I would give it a go. He then cautiously said (only when he had a couple drinks in him) that he liked fingers in his butt too. So I took it to the next level and said, what about a strap on?! (Some back story) I love to be completely dominated during sex, I love vicious rough sex, you know, hair pulling, slapping, choking, being tied up. Reasons why I like this: I am a dominant person in my day to day life. He is INCREDIBLY dominant in both, sex, and real life. (Don’t ask how we ‘go’ together, because I don’t know either) but despite all that I said above, the idea of dominating a man during sex seemed super appealing to me. So I bought a strap on, and he loves it, and so do I. I mean if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right? He is incredibly confident and comfortable with himself, he is incredibly muscular and good looking. But he is a tad shy about the topic. What are your thoughts ladies? Do you think maybe he swings both ways but is to ‘masculine’ to admit it?

Edit: this man has done everything in bed according to him, except for the strap on. So this is also very new to him. He is a tad shy when he wants me to do anything with his butt, so I kind of just take the lead when I sense that he is wanting it. He also is completely OBSESSED with everything to do with my butt. (What guy isn’t nowadays? Lol)