DIVORCED!!!!

9 months after leaving an abusive marriage, I am officially divorced. I am beyond excited to take my maiden name back. But y’all... I have to tell you what happened. The whole time before my hearing my ex kept saying “I’ll be there, I finally got my license and a car” 🙄 I knew damn well that was a lie. But I just said “okay see ya there”. So we show up, my dad is like “hey we should see if we can find his car” just so happens he parked right across the walk way from us. There was a Camry there with plates from the state he’s from (two states away). There is a frame around the plate for the town we lived in together. My dad says “well, maybe he did get his license and a car”.... I was like please... not possible. There’s a navy girlfriend sticker on the side. He didn’t drive his girlfriend did. Now if you know anything about the military you know they don’t play when it comes to committing adultery. I didn’t really care too much because I myself got into a relationship. But I found the man who’s go good to me and I absolutely adore himself. Now before you go and judge my decision, ask me the full story first. I don’t really care to hear about how I got into a relationship before my divorce was done. But anyways.... we walk in, he’s at a court hearing wearing jeans and a flannel. I wore dress pants and a top with a cardigan. It was very quick, he agreed to give me the amount he gives me every month. But this was the last payment because he was getting paid the day after our hearing. So I said fine. Let’s get this done with. Once things are done he goes to say goodbye or something to me and I said “tell your girlfriend I like her ducking Camry”.... just so he knew I caught him in ANOTHER LIE. Lying was one reason why I left him. His face went white as a ghost. I watched him get into this passenger seat and the girl drive away. Then he blocks my number. Keep in mind we only testified at that point. The judge hasn’t signed off the document yet. So he still owed me the money. That was the agreement in court. He blocked my number so I had to email him. After fighting for hours he finally pays me. But ripped me off 150$ because he somehow believes that the three days of the month we weren’t married amounted to that.... which is incorrect. I ended up having to email his command and they made sure I’d get that paid to me. And for those of you who say “I shouldn’t be involving his command” well I had to, because he thinks he can walk all over me. This is his second divorce and he isn’t even 25 yet. Goes to show he’s got some issues. My dad was in the service for 20 years and I know how this works.

I never thought I’d be so happy to be 23 and divorced but damn it feels good! I’m so excited for that chapter of my life to close and the new chapter I am about to start. I don’t see this as something ending, this is the beginning for me.

After being cheated on, lied to, abused and put through such extensive invasive care by a military hospital misdiagnosing me I am finally free and on the right track.

Side note: I had tried to get pregnant with him and he told me his sperm looked fine. Because of HIPPA, when I went for my check up they said well if he told you that then we will start you on drugs. After doing the exams, diagnostic tests, femara, and a miscarriage... I have finally found out I have PCOS, which was clear in my labs from that time. I am finally under the care of my work, which is an endocrinology office and they were appalled to see my notes and labs from that hospital. Never again would I see a military doctor.