Fiancé and I don’t fight?

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I see lots of posts about how fighting is good for your relationship and how so many people have been through a lot of rough times. But my fiancé and I hardly ever fight. The only times we get short with each other is in the car because we’re both backseat drivers 😂 We always try to understand each other’s view points and we can usually come to an agreement (and no, I’m not always right). 
Should we be fighting more? Like what is there that’s worth fighting over?

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That has been the dumbest statement I have ever heard and I hear it from people who don’t have successful relationships. What is healthy for relationships is being confronted with obstacles and problems that the two of you can work together to overcome. Fighting usually makes these problems happen and then you need to communicate after. But fighting is not something actually good. My SO and I never fight. We can be a little irritated sometimes, but we never fight. We do our best to diffuse things very quickly and keep each other happy

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I don’t fight with my partner. I’ve tried to start a fight with my partner but he just said ‘what are you doing?’ I said ‘I’m trying to start a fight so we can have makeup sex!!’ 😂 We ended up skipping the fight and went straight to the sex 😂 
There have been times where I’ve been upset about something (usually when I have my period or I’m experiencing some major anxiety from my birth control) but we don’t fight. If I’m upset, I tell him about it and we talk it out. We have never raised our voices at each other, we’ve never sworn at each other, we’ve never been mean to each other (except when we’re competing over something and smack talking each other haha), we’ve never lied to each other. We always listen, show respect, love and talk with each other. 
I feel bad for the people who argue all the time. That’s not a relationship I would want to be a part of. 🙅‍♀️
I’m sure there are going to be times in our future when we do fight, but I don’t think it should be a regular thing in a relationship. 🤷‍♀️

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My fiancé and I don’t fight. We have small arguments here and there that usually end up in one of us googling something or one of us saying “we’re in a fight” and then we laugh it off. We have a really good system of communication, have from the start. I come from a family where vocal tones can be huge triggers, and sometimes he doesn’t realize his natural cadence of telling something to me goes into that tone so I get snippy with him, but that’s the farthest its ever gone. I’m sure down the line when we own our own home, have kids and other things to take care of, we’re gonna have some fights, but I don’t think it’s healthy or unhealthy. Everything needs a balance.

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I think not fighting can be either a good thing or a bad thing, depending on the reason. 
My first boyfriend and I never, ever fought. But it was because I took the blame for everything and let things that bother me go. I wanted to be the “chill girlfriend,” I didn’t want to step on his toes. He always talked about how easy it was, being in a relationship with me. But I wasn’t happy. I felt like I didn’t have a voice and everything was always my own problem. 
Now, my husband and I also never fight. But it’s because we communicate. We talk about issues before they become arguments. We also know each other so well, so we can typically understand where the other is coming from. I swear our relationship has gotten easier the longer we’ve been together, and that feeling is 100% mutual. We are both quick to apologize and recognize how we can do better next time— him especially. When we come across an issue, it’s never an “argument” or a “fight.” It’s just something to talk through and work out. I’d say things get resolved so much easier this way, even, and issues don’t seem as big when you’re both actively communicating together. 
So yeah I’d say it is a good thing as long as you’re not pushing things aside or holding things in. Conflict resolution is very important, but it doesn’t mean you HAVE to “fight.”

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Me and my husband didn’t have any arguements until about 2 yrs after we were official

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If you don’t fight/disagree often I’d take that as a good sign! As long as one person isn’t just giving in all of the time / not actually ever voicing their opinion I think you’re fine.

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Count yourself blessed but all couples eventually fight. Maybe both of your temperaments are similar. 
Sounds like you both are calm, mature, possibly sweet and understanding people. 
My husband and I are both fire signs. I’m an Aries and he’s a Leo. Even if anyone doubts astrology were both actually stubborn, selfish and easily angered. It’s a lot of give and take for my husband and I but I think we’re both forgiving. 
Oddly our arguments are so petty that we end up laughing about them after we reel into each other and it sometimes helps us to blow off steam about how we’ve made each other feel. It also helps us to learn more about one another. We just had a large argument a few days ago but it’s settled. And we’ve only been married a month. I love my husband but i think it’s normal to occasionally or regularly argue. Depends on the couple and their personalities. 
The thing that matters is the love and making up part. A couple can still argue and move one another same with a couple loving one another with minimal arguments it all just depends.

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me and my partner have had about 3 arguments in the last 2 and half years it's rare we have crosswords either

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I don’t necessarily agree that fighting is good for a relationship. I think what is intended by that statement is that during a fight is when you’re more likely to bring up things that have been bothering you, everything is brought to the table so you’re forced to communicate and deal with it.
If you’re communicating openly all of the time, then there should be no fighting! 
In saying that, I do believe a couple need to go through tough times together to truly see how you work as a team/see how strong your relationship is.
Again, I don’t necessarily mean cheating, or drugs/alcoholism etc. It could mean experiencing the death of a loved one- one person might shut down and withdraw, leaving the other struggling to help or be there for them, which can result in you growing apart rather than getting through the situation together. 
It all comes down to communication, and by the sounds of it you’re both doing an amazing job of that in your relationship so I don’t think you have anything to worry about 🤗

Fiancé and I don’t fight?

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