Just a little back up information. I dated this girl from October of 2017 to January of 2018 when she broke up with me and insisted I couldn’t tell my parents. That was the entire relationship really, “don’t tell your parents” “don’t tell anyone” and so forth.

Recently, I think she wants to get back together. I’ve expressed MULTIPLE TIMES to her that I’m not comfortable entering into a relationship right now. But she’s gotten multiple of my friends to ask me if I like her. I always answer the same: I’m not comfortable being in a relationship right now, especially when my identity is a huge provider of confusion right now. Even if I was, I’m not sure it would work out well after last time.

They seem fine with that and the conversation is over.

Now yesterday while hanging out with one of those friends, he goes to show me a picture on his phone. I end up seeing that he has a cropped screenshot of my answer on his phone. He had sent it to her. I was of course upset but what did I expect. Then recently I was out with my ex, a friend, and my musical cast. My friend asked me if I liked her. I answered. She immediately turns around to tell my ex. She doesn’t even say anything, she just turns around.

Now I’m pretty fucking done with this, because every single time I think someone cares about my life or someone wants to know about me, it’s just so they can tell someone else who has already been told it multiple times. I get it, you like me. I don’t. Get over it.

Am I just overreacting? Is this a normal love life sorta thing? Is there an easy way to cut these people out of my life?