UPDATE: Two lap dances... come to find out, he actually got two lap dances. I thought I had told him explicitly that that was where I drew the line, but there was miscommunication and he ended up getting them. Would it be an unfair boundary for me to request that if he is going to go to the strip club without me that he not get a lap dance? It’s fine while I’m there, but the idea of a half naked woman dancing on him without me there makes me so sad.

My boyfriend went to a strip club last night after I told him how much I’d rather he wouldn’t, but that I wouldn’t tell him “no” because I don’t want to be controlling.

He went in spite of how clearly not okay with it I was, and now is poking fun at how hurt I am over it.

For context, I truly am surprised by my jealousy and hurt. I used to be in an open relationship and literally NOTHING would make me feel jealous.

I know he didn’t get a dance or anything and I trust him to not do anything physical with another woman but I’m still SO hurt. I feel silly for it, though. Should I force myself to chill out? Am I being unfair? The idea of him going out with the intent to gawk at naked women when he’s the one that convinced me to get into monogamy is throwing me for a loop.