You guys, I’m 33, married, and the mother of a beautiful 2 year old boy. My husband wants me to lose weight before we try of another baby - he’s not being an asshat, even though that might sound crappy. He’s scared - I had some pretty frightening health issues after our son was born that he and I both suspect were weight-related (I gained about 30 lbs quickly during my post partum period). I’ve lost all that weight and I’m not quite back at pre-pregnancy weight but my health is much better and I’m taking pretty good care of myself these days and still loosing weight.

Bottom line, I’m ready to go. My husband wants a little more time, not just for me to lose some more weight and be healthy for it but because I know he’d like to enjoy the summer as a family of three before we make a pregnancy happen. His terms are reasonable and he’s a great guy who doesn’t ask for much. I have to give this to him.

But I am ACHING for another child. I’m starting to feel jealous of pregnant women (not resentful, just jealous) and I’m pretty preoccupied with pregnancy and newborn thoughts. I’m sad when I get my period, which is nuts - we’re not even trying! I find myself wanting to talk about it with him and I have to consciously stop myself. (We’ve had conversations about what we want and what’s important to us - I have to stop myself from yammering about it constantly cuz it’s so often on my mind.)

Help me out, ladies. How do I hold steady and give my husband the space he needs on this without driving him - and myself - insane? I’m losing my cool over this.