Did you have sex before marriage

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There’s no need to be anonymous, you should seek proper advice. I would wait, my dear. If I’m open with you, I’ve been in love enough times to know that there’s no guarantee that you will be with this guy later on in life. And if you go on to find someone you love so much more than your current love, you will regret it. It’s hard, but it’s really worth it. If it makes it easier, don’t not have sex because you’re bound by religion. Don’t have it because you are setting those standards of love and respect for yourself.
Just an assumption of your situation, kind of. 😉

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I waited for marriage and I'm really grateful that I did. When you find that one man who is dedicated and committed to you, having waited feels absolutely worth it. Both of you will experience the beautiful intimacy and joys of marriage together for the first time. That bond you'll develop between you both is amazing. Honestly, it's not allowed in Islam to have relationships before marriage for very good reasons and I would wait. I know people say that you don't know if you'll like them in bed but if they're the only person you've been with you won't feel the need to compare them to anyone else because they're the best you've had. Also, marriage is far deeper than sex... It's about getting along on a personal level and if that's going well then sex between you both will always feel satisfying. There are times when you can't have sex like on your menses, or don't want to like in pregnancy, but you'll have that connection with your husband and the love will get you through, God willing. You have to be realistic. Every relationship has a honeymoon period, including marriages, and once the novelty and excitement has worn off you will be left with a person with their own habits and character. All you have to try to ensure is that they have a good character because that's what will make the marriage last. There are plenty of men and women out there who look great and probably are great in bed, but will they stick around in hard times and be faithful throughout? The main thing is that there's no guarantee that that guy who promises to marry you (but wants to have sex until you're both ready to marry) will actually marry you. Even if his intentions are sincere to marry you, he isn't respecting your body and he may even pass away before fulfilling that promise. I've seen a lot of Muslim couples who've been in sexual relationships even for decades before marriage... Oftentimes the marriage doesn't go ahead because one or the other's family disapproves of the match, or even either the guy or girl never truly intended to marry that person and goes ahead to marry someone else with a better social status, the 'good guy/ girl' or someone in family that they've been promised to like a cousin. It's just messy. Marry the person and then you know they'll be there for sure.

Did you have sex before marriage

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