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Hi! I'm pro choice and from your situation I truly think that if you can support this baby alone than you should have it. As far as your husband , that's tough but your happiness comes first. Do you believe you can do this alone? Are you excited about possibly having a baby? Put yourself first and go with that gut instinct
So confused!
I've never been so conflicted on what to do. I'm pregnant (8wks, 2days) & can't decide whether to keep the child or abort. I've known 3+ wks now, but just can't decide. I even went to an abortion clinic 2 wks ago, but after the ultrasound, they said they could tell I wasn't sure & sent me home to think on it more.
I'm 36 & no children yet, but always wanted them. I'm married, but it's not my husband's.
My husband is distant, both emotionally & actually - he lives in another country & I've only seen him a handful of days in the last 3-4 yrs. That said, I do still love him & there is no way he would stay with me if I had this child.
Also, the father is married w/ 2 children & I would not want to destroy that family. So, I would have to do this on my own - financially & as a single parent.
If that wasn't enough, I lost my long time job 6 months ago & have yet to find new employment & all my savings has been used at this point, so I'm not financially stable really.
Besides all this, my family is really religious & I will be judge on my actions, which I accept were not right in the first place.
I have written out my feelings, talked with a few friends, called 2 different hotlines, talked with the father & I still don't know what to do.
Thinking of how the child's life will be, I don't want it to suffer through life because of the circumstances they were brought into.
On paper, it seems to make the most sense to abort, but idk if I could ever forgive myself if I did. I don't know if I could ever get past it. And, what if I never have the chance to parent again?
I don't know that any of you can help me, but idk who else to reach out to. The few people that know are tired of my indecisiveness & are pressuring me to decide already & commit to it, but it's a life altering decision. Any advise on how to decide is appreciated.
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I'm so sorry you feel like you're stuck. Only know that there's no shame in the choice you make. If you choose to continue your pregnancy, there are some resources out there for you. The clinic can point you in the right direction. If you choose to have an abortion, that's okay too. I think most go through a what if line of thinking after... It's natural. There is no right or wrong way to feel. The clinic call also set you up with after abortion support. The choice is yours completely. There is no shame in the choice you make. I'm sending good thoughts your way. ❤❤❤❤
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