Ok ladies I need your opinions. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just over 3 months.

Since the start of our relationship he did not have his own transportation, which I didn’t mind...1. Because I’ve been where he is, 2. He told me he would be getting his tags back for his truck within the next month. Ok so our initial first month was okay, I was kind of self sabotaging trying to find things wrong in order to protect my heart from being hurt again.

Then I had a talk with my mom and in a more loving way she told me to get my shit together. Of course I did I stopped bottling everything up and making him feel bad all the time and just talked about how a felt like an adult and not a teenager.

Everything was going pretty well he met my mom my brother and got to speak with my sister on FaceTime (she lives in TX) but family is super important to me. He shares the same faith and loves music just as much as I do. I’m moving to TN later this year for school and he’s been supportive of that too, even said he would move out there with me when the time was right. The communication was on point, I could be myself with him short hair tattoos and all. I’m also a Virgin he was ok with waiting for me to make that decision for myself.

It had been about 2 months and I still hadn’t met any of the members in his family. I had been in his mother’s home in his room and eaten at her table but I had not yet met this woman. In my house that’s extremely disrespectful, to quote my mother “she can’t come in and speak??” I had spoken with him about it before and let him know it was important to me to meet his family, he said she was always working or resting. The first 5 times when I would come to his house and she was there and he wouldn’t even allow me inside I would believe her to be resting and I let it go but after the 15th-20th time of her being home my my she sure does sleep a lot doesn’t she?? I had one final conversation about it with him and I said I would let it go.

I only asked him to advocate for me with his mom. Just to say “hey mom my girlfriend would really love to meet you, do you think you could make some time for that??” Is that asking too much?? I haven’t brought it up again since....

I mentioned earlier he doesn’t have a vehicle and as such I drive EVERYWHERE which at first I didn’t mind but there just always seemed to be something wrong with his truck, first the tags now the engine ticks?? He works Wednesday through Saturday from 7:00pm-5:00am I work Monday through Thursday as well as Saturday 9-5:30 I live in Harrisburg NC he lives off Brookshire in Charlotte if you don’t know where that is they are about 25-30 min apart depending upon traffic, in order for me to take him to work i would have to fight 5:00 traffic take him down by the airport which is where his job is and come back to Harrisburg which is roughly 45 min. In total an 1 1/2 trip just to take him to work 4 days a week every week....

I don’t mind if I’m available and have the gas and means to do so which a lot of times I don’t. Sometimes he takes Uber to work, when he can’t pay for it he asks me when I can’t pay for it he stops texting me back...when I won’t continue to let my debit card decline over and over on the Uber app (sometimes there’s a glitch that will let you do that and still get the ride). When I can’t send an Uber and I can’t pick him up he gets really pissed off and doesn’t talk to me for days.

On Saturday he asked for a ride and I was unable to take him not just because I didnt have the gas but I had plans as well. He hasn’t talked to me since and he probably won’t until Wednesday when he needs a ride again. When I call he doesn’t answer when I text he doesn’t respond he’ll unless I’m physically with him and I MAKE PLANS I don’t hear from him unless he needs a ride.

The thing lately that’s been bothering me the most is rather than ask his mom who is literally 15 ft away from him for a ride to work he calls me who is probably 20 miles away and gets pissed off when I’m unable to accommodate him.

If I wanna talk about sex he’s all ears but anything else I don’t hear from him unless he needs a ride. I remember once he needed a ride to cash a check and I LITERALLY left work picked him up took him to the bank and the store and home and came back to work to make sure he and his younger brother (who has autism) could eat.

So it’s not as if I don’t EVER help I just can’t 1000% of the time. And if that makes me a bitch or a shitty girlfriend oh well.

He never lets me see his phone, I trust him I never request it to snoop it’s usually just to show him something online or something mindless like that, HE FREAKS OUT every time I even go near it. Where as when he gets in my car and I’m on my phone he asks who are you talking too who is calling??

If his mom or his sisters are home I CANNOT COME IN! He doesn’t make plans for us I do EVERYTHING, I pay for most things he always says he doesn’t have money but he makes more than I do. He makes roughly 600-800 every two weeks and 300-600 every single Sunday at the churches he plays for. I get it he has bills but damn what are you paying a mortgage?! Are your bills that much that you are completely broke by Wednesday!? And how are you getting to work if I say no and you supposedly don’t have any money.

He doesn’t really notice me, I’m not the most feminine girl in the world but I still try to look nice and smell good take care of myself and he doesn’t notice. Where as if he gets a haircut I’m all over him “damn babe you look good fresh cut and everything”.

Idk what do you guys think am I compromising or settling??