Okay guys, gals, and nonbinary pals. I have a dilemma. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. I trust him with pretty much everything, I know he wouldn’t cheat on me and that is not the issue here. But he just recently acquired a friend from work who is a very attractive blonde skinny female. Now I have no problem with opposite sex friends as I also have many friends of a different gender. However I feel uncomfortable and insecure and I cannot tell why... I don’t want to tell him that he cannot be friends with her because nothing has happened and there is nothing wrong. So why do I feel this way? I have never felt this amount of insecurity. He has reassured me he loves me and is not attracted to her in anyway.

So the other night he picked her up from work because he was stressed out and wanted a friend to talk to. I told him that they can go anywhere except the one place that we met and had our first kiss since I think of it as “our place” and I didn’t really want to imagine him there with another female regardless of if it was platonic. Well what do you know... he goes to that place. Of course I was pissed and we had a fight. But we have made up since then. But I still cannot shake this feeling that I don’t like this friendship. And I just keep imagining at that spot. Where we sat on our first date and kissed. And now I feel like that place is ruined, and I have these really horrible thoughts of picturing him sleeping with her even though I know that that is not happening. I just can’t shake it. Am I being unfair? Please be honest with me, no need to be harsh but I do need to hear what others think.

UPDATE:

I should mention, he does not have many friends who live near us so he says he is just genuinely excited to have a new friend. Someone to talk to besides me, I guess. Do you think this changes anything? I hate to see him lonely and bored... But they literally text DAILY and have a snap steak. Thoughts?