Oh man where to start. I recently found out my husband was having an affair. That lasted for a little over a year. The other female is twice my age, a middle aged home wrecker who knew about me the entire time and our kids. Ive been with my husband since I was a sophomore in highschool. He’s the only man I’ve ever been with. I was pregnant with baby #3 when this affair took place. This affair has pretty much killed me. I love my husband with everything thing I have, but I in no way have forgiven him. All trust is gone, and he knows that. It’s hard to hate someone who you love that much. I’ve came down to it that I don’t hate him, I hate what he has done to me.. to us, to our family. 13 years is a long time loving someone, and some may say I’m stupid for staying. But that’s the kind of person I am. I have to at least try and see if our marriage is salvageable. We went through a huge rough patch right before I got pregnant, and during my entire pregnancy. I never suspected cheating, but I knew we had a lot of problems. He made a wise decision and went and got tested for every std there is. I had all of my testing done while I was pregnant and had a follow up pap 2 months ago. All was clear for me. He on the other hand was diagnosed with genital warts (which means he has hpv). I am thanking my lucky stars I got my gaudasil shots, and we used protection while I was pregnant and everytime after 🙌 Anyways genital warts and hpv isn’t an std that is required for the clinic to call and disclose to partners they may have came into contact with it. This lady though ( I can’t help calling her a lady, I have so many lewd names I wish I could use, but won’t stoop that low) she rubbed the affair in my face. Was proud that she knew about me the whole time. She’s married too and acted like it didn’t phase her that her husband also knew. She showed zero remorse in her actions and came at me with every insult she could muster up. She wanted to leave her family and wanted my husband to leave me and our kids for her. When he broke it off, he told me everything. She was so dead set to make me want to leave him. She started sending me messages about their acts together (I won’t disclose those). It was insane, she went into a jealous fit. I had to block any further communication. Now that we have his test results back though, should we tell her? I feel that it will be wrong not to. Our life is a mess right now, and I’ve gone through pretty much every emotion a person is capable of. I can’t help but laugh just a little... karma is one sneaky bitch. I’d rather not talk to this woman ever again, but the temptation to rub the karma in her face after how she treated me... I told my husband you can’t roll around in the dirt and expect not to be dirty. Pretty much that’s what you get for fucking around on your wife.