What would you change..?

Question

I wanna hear everyone’s opinions on problematic opinions/toxic behaviours that WE have which we should change? 
Ladies and gents: 
Please no passing judgements on those who are willing to be open and share! 
For me I’ll name a few 
- I miss having friends and long to have a best friend again, yet I get annoyed of other people and don’t wanna make friends as I enjoy my alone time.
-sometimes I over think things, and take things personal.
- I have a hard time letting go of certain things and people.

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oh man, your first one about making friends is so so relatable. My closest friends and i have all drifted apart in the last few years and I really want to make a new best friend....but the thought of finding someone I like and going through the whole getting to know you process just makes me cringe too. i'm pretty shy and reserved until I get to know someone so making friends doesnt come easy. But i miss the camaraderie

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I am relentless and passionate, that seems to me only to be toxic behavior because people do not appreciate having their bubbles of understanding burst. I try to live with compassion and understanding, but there is only so much ignorance I can take. 
I have a quick temper, and I can easily become overwhelmed by emotions, both mine and others. For that I need space to integrate and ground. 
I also really like baggles and I have a hard time remembering to drink water. Both of those may cause me issues in the future.

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I'd like to make friends. Yet everyone I've ever gotten close to has turned out to be a terrible person. 
I assume everyone hates me. Even my daughter and husband. I just keep it to myself. They don't give me any signs that they dislike me, I just assume it. 
I force relationships with terrible family member because I'm terrified of abandonment.

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Lately it’s my ability to obsess over wanting a baby. I was a fence sitter and than decided I wanted a baby. My husband got orders for us to move overseas and it’s not the right time. I can’t talk about it with him because it stresses him out. So I bottle it up inside. 
That’s probably the next biggest one is I bottle all of my emotions up until I snap. I’m working on being better with my communication. 
I don’t like making new friend irl so I joined CC and get my human interaction that way. The women here are catty and 99% of them have kids and shun anyone who doesn’t so it’s hard.

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I am a terrible over spender. I can't save money to save my life. 
I stay up WAY too late every single night and always feel like shit the next day being exhausted, but yet I'll stay up just as late the next night. 
I'm never satisfied no matter where I live. I'm always suggesting we move to some new state. I've lived in Wyoming, Texas and Georgia all in 2 years solely because I always think the grass will be greener on the other side. I'm moving to Nevada next.

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My best friend and I try to make new friends. But we fail a lot. Although we have gained two new friends over the last four years. I have a hard time opening up to people and making friends. I get anxiety over things I cannot control and get stressed out easily as well.

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-I'm so bitchy sometimes and have an attitude. I am a lot better than when I first joined this community, but its something that I'm continuing to work on. The more stressed out I am, the more attitude I have. 
-I am so indecisive. Its like I want people to talk to me yet I don't. 😂 This leads me to be distant and seemingly apathetic.
-I don't like new people. I have a serious problem with new people around my friends and family. I get quiet, I don't participate in conversations. I assume it comes from my severe trust issues.
There's a lot I would change, but it all stems from some deeper issue within myself so its hard to change it, but working on it.

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I find it really hard to ever justify taking time away from my kids because I’m always paranoid they will be tough for whoever is watching them.
I also would much rather sit and do nothing once my kids are in bed and if I go out all I think about is getting home to get into my bed and sleep.
I have anxiety and when going out with my husbands friends from work I tend to just shell up and not interact much because I hate meeting new people. I’ve had the same friend group from high school and they’re about the only people I’m ok being completely myself around.
I tend to have major “resting bitch face” and I think I can be very unapproachable because of it. 
I hate spending money on just me going out because all I think about is what I could of bought for my kids with that money.

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I’d like to meet other expectant mothers in the area, but I also would like to stay at home and hang out with my cat.
I wish I had more patience with people.
I’d also like to let go of implicit biases and become a stronger advocate, but I also fear screwing up and being detrimental to a cause.

What would you change..?

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