What do you do when others are nosy and tell you to wait

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My husband and I are now TTC. We’re not little kids (24&25) and we live on our own and pay all our bills and put money into savings monthly on top of slowly buying baby things so we’re not reliant on others buying it/don’t have to deplete our savings to buy the stuff in one go.
Sometimes we have older people saying “wait as long as you can for kids” whether the reason is travel, enjoying each other, or just saying that kids suck so put it off.
My husband and I adore kids. This last year we couldn’t try for medical reasons and I had the worst physical year of my life (I had to go on low dose chemo for lupus). I’ve realized that life is short, and who knows-with my condition- if later I will be well enough to pick up little kids or play with them on the ground and such. I wanna be a good mom, and I don’t think others think about the chronic illness side of things that I have to consider with everything.
EDIT: my doctor has cleared me for pregnancy and actually encouraged it. He says that this is the perfect time for pregnancy and with my condition pregnancy sometimes even helps further remission

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first I think you should consult with your doctor about the possibility of having kids with your condition then if everything is fine have you some baby's best of luck

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It does not matter what a soul on this planet thinks your goal is to make you and your SO happy so if a kid makes y’all happy do it. Shit if 20 kids make y’all happy do it forget everyone else

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My mother's above for dealing with difficult/annoying people is to laugh. Crack a joke that lets them know they've crossed a line and you think it's ridiculous for them to think they should have a say. It's easier to move on with humor. Maybe something like "haha! okay and you should have one right now because making family plans for other families is totally normal!" Or maybe something less sarcastic. Or just laugh at them. Or just stand your ground and say, "I know what I want and it's my business to make it work."

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You will have both kinds of people, ones who tell you to wait and ones that will tell you it’s now or never! Just do what feels right for you and your hubby and try not to listen to all the noise! :)

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I just don’t tell people when I do things in my relationship. That way, I have no worry of nay sayers. Consult a doctor though, they may see your health issues as a concern.

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I think older people put their ‘what ifs’ off on their younger family. I think whatever makes you happy should be your main focus!

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If you are prepared then go for it but talk to your doctor first. My cousin has Lupus and she did decide to get pregnant and had her son (he’s 16 now) but it did come at price to her health but she decided having a child with her husband was worth all the risk.  so just make sure you consult your doctor so you know all your risks and best of luck to you 😊

What do you do when others are nosy and tell you to wait

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