I have trouble sleeping in the same bed as my boyfriend?

Question

I love my boyfriend to death, we've been together for 3 1/2 years and we're each others first serious relationship (we're both 19). No matter what I do, I can never seem to sleep when I'm with him, no matter how tired. I have no idea why. I'm more comfortable around him than anyone so it's not discomfort- he does get very warm and snores if he's on his back but even that doesn't bother me that much. No matter long I sit there and try to sleep I normally don't at all, and literally end up unintentionally pulling an all nighter, which isn't good. We had a sleepover last night and I think I fell asleep for a little bit around 4:30 am and woke back up around 5. It's so frustrating because I love cuddling and being in the same bed as him but I hate that I can't fall asleep, when he can fall asleep in seconds. Any tips?

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I wonder if you are having a bit of anxiety about sleeping there? I know that when I first start sleeping with a partner, I get really anxious about the fact that I might fart or snore or something like that in my sleep 😂 . I know it’s ridiculous, but it happens and it makes me stay up. So what I have learned to do is just remember that stuff like that happens to everyone and then I start concentrating on my breath. Concentrate on how your breath moves into your mouth or nose, how it feels going down your throat all the way into your belly and the sensation it makes on the way out. When your mind wanders, continually bring your awareness back to your breath. It’s basically like meditating until you fall asleep.

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It’s usually the opposite I’ll knock out in 2 seconds 😭 and my boyfriend would be up smoking , playing his game , messing with me , being annoying yk 😭🤣🤣 so idk are you stressed about something ? I get insomnia when I’m not with my boyfriend or I’m worried about something  so idk how to relate to this 😩

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I have the same problem! So far using separate blankets has helped a little but idk what else. we've only been having sleepovers for a few months though so I'm hoping I'll just get used to it

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separate blankets. Sleeping in opposite directions.
if you only suffer from insomnia in the specific situation then that’s kind of weird and I don’t really know how to help. :( But you can try general nighttime routine things. Like soft music and breathing exercises

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I’ve got the same issue!!!! I sleep better with another person in the room but I have trouble sleeping with him. (I actually have trouble sleeping regardless.) I started taking melatonin (which helps when I’m with him or not.) We’ve found that if he can get me to sleep first, then it’s easier for him to go to sleep and for me to stay asleep. We usually watch a show until I’m asleep/falling asleep and then he gets me to bed and once I’m asleep he’ll get comfy and go go sleep.

I have trouble sleeping in the same bed as my boyfriend?

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