am i overreacting? or were they wrong?

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so let me start off by saying that I struggle with depression, anxiety, ED/BD... I have for as long as I can remember. 
My parents are physically and emotionally abusive, but they've died down a bit. They've always been the type to hurl negative insults and then disregard your feelings as if it isn't supposed to hurt. They don't know about my illnesses because they don't care to. 
Today, my mom pulled up my old prom pictures from one of those memory things on Facebook and I made the comment of how I looked extra bloated because I was on my period and she goes, "no, you were skinny back then, not as fat as you are now" and... that hurt because I've been struggling with my weight and it's been killing me. I got quiet, on the verge of tears, and her and my dad kept going saying how I need to grow up and stop being so sensitive when someone says something rude. My mom said she was joking... which I doubt because she's one of the main reasons why I have body issues. They said that if I think I'm fat then I am, and then they compared me to a racist term used against white people (we are black). When I said how much it hurt, they started making jokes about it, laughing, just overall rude. I have been avoiding them ever sense because it's bothering me and they're going about it like they did nothing wrong. I'm tempted to relapse.
Am I being stupid? were they wrong? I just need opinions....

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I’m very sorry for what you’re going through. I know it must be very hard to stay positive but try to remember everyone is beautiful in their own way and beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and never forget it!

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Please don’t relapse! I believe you can get through this. Think of how far you have come and all of the time and hard work you have put into your recovery. I know it is so hard to do. I have been bulimic for 10 years, and I’m on week 17 no purging whatsoever as of today! I still struggle so much, and I definitely understand feeling like you want to or might relapse, but when I feel that way, I think of how horrible I ALWAYS feel about myself after I force myself to purge or when I relapse. It helps me stay positive and work through it, so that I don’t end up throwing all of my hard work away. If you truly feel you might relapse, do something to make it so you can’t. For example, if I’m home alone, I know I’m more likely to purge, so if I feel like I might, I leave the house and go to Starbucks to do homework or go shopping to get my mind off of it, and I don’t go home until I feel more emotionally stable and have more control over my thoughts to purge, and know that I won’t relapse. Stay strong! I am always here to talk if you need someone to talk to! No judgment whatsoever. 💕

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They are wrong! You are not overreacting. Abusers will often try to make you think you’re overreacting or being “too sensitive” as they like to say. You reacted absolutely appropriately for being rudely insulted. I think you handled it well. The problem is that abusers do not take your feelings into consideration, even after you’ve told them that it hurts. It’s super sad. I am sorry that you have to live like this. I wonder if you have any other family you can stay with?

am i overreacting? or were they wrong?

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