Always “Kidding”. 🙄

I’m an idiot, first off. Let’s just get that out there. I’m pretty naive when it comes to these situations and it always takes someone else’s input to put me in my place about something I’m doing that for whatever reason, I’m not seeing as wrong. Thanks to a comment on pretty much the same post, I’m seeing it from a different stand point and honestly I’m fucking irritated. (I decided to repost instead of editing that whole other post because that’d would have just taken too much time) My issue is that I have a friend I met on Facebook, I wouldn’t have to question how she feels if it wasn’t for me and my immaturity towards these situations, situations like these are why I prefer not to have friends or only talk to those I know in person but here I fucking am. This girl will “jokingly” flirt with me for an entire conversation and most times(99% of the time) I’ll just kind of sit there and deflect to another subject or just not respond to it, other times I’ll acknowledge it and as soon as I do, she basically flops around going on and on about my husband and kids when she didn’t give a damn about it while she was slathering me in compliments and joking about stealing me from my husband 😑🙄 there was even a period of time when she kept talking about us being married as wife and wife but of course she’s always “kidding”. I’m questioning why I’m even her friend as I’m typing this. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ve spoken to my husband and he says I shouldn’t talk to her and I know he’s right, I shouldn’t and rarely do. Someone had commented on my last post that I would be furious if the same thing happened but to my husband and they’re right, I would be, which is why I’m here. I want to confront her about it but I don’t want to cause a giant problem where there shouldn’t be one if I can approach this differently. I’m afraid if I do she’ll try to spin it on me like she has in the past and act like I’m the one who needs to back off when she initiated it EVERY TIME it happened. I know that I shouldn’t have even bothered to respond to her in the first place, I pretty much created my own problem at this point. Everyone around that I’ve told says she’s serious and that’s why she deflects if I even so much as acknowledge it when she does it.

All in all, I want to know how I can approach telling her how I feel without her trying to deflect it and avoid me for months at a time over the mere mention of me trying to ask why.