Guys and girls will you go back to ur cheating ex wife or ex husband if a kid is involved?

My ex went back to his ex wife who cheated on him and treated him badly. So this is the story. They were married for 7 years and they have a 7 yr old kid together. She cheated on him with her step brother and moved out with him and took some of the furniture that my ex bought. My ex just worked for her and their kid. He will come home and cook and clean while she stood home and did nothing. He will get paid $300 weekly because he worked dishwashing and he will give her $200 all for her.

A year after she cheated he got divorced and we met. Everything was going great we were happy. Sex was not that great he had erectile dysfunction and he was embarrassed by it. He said the main reason she cheated was due to that. I told him I didn't care and I gave him the love, support, care, and understanding he needed. Before going to GYN to get help with that when we were intimate he'll stop mid way and he'll cry. I held him and kissed him and told him how much I loved him. He went to the GYN either way because he wanted to please me. It turned out he had low testosterone and high cholesterol. He got medication for it things were better.

7 months into the relationship things took a turn. For his kids birthday celebration we went to the beach along with his ex wife and my mother in law. Some of his friends and family members. I've noticed his ex wife was very distant from her bf(stepbrother). When we were at the beach my ex had a watergun and he was throwing water at her butt. I got upset but I didn't say anything. Her bf was out of the water playing cards with his friends. After that she was talking to my mother in law about taking her to the mall sometime. She was also talking about her past and how she loves cooking with lemon(my ex loves lemon and cooks with it). I was already upset and I left I said bye to everyone and made something up so I can leave politely. A week after the beach incident and all the arguments I had with my ex about how wrong everything that happened that day was and how disrespected I felt all he had to say was that I was making a big deal out of it. That they have always been that cool. He didn't care or ever gave me my place. That same week she calls him while we were in an event with my family asking him if he's happy with me and that she misses him. That their kid misses him being in a family together. He stood on the phone with her for 5 mins right next to me he stood quiet and he said we'll talk later. I was so upset and disrespected.

A week after that he sent her a paragraph supposedly telling her why they couldn't be together. I asked him if I could see it he only let me see it from far and he had deleted all the other messages prior to that. I was fed up and we spoke about it. I was about to break up with him but he didn't let me he was in tears and swore to me he doesn't want anything to do with her. So I gave it a chance and we stood together for 5 more months I know stupid naive me :(. She was not contacting him supposedly but he was distant from me he was supposedly stressed from work and a bit depresssed.

Again we sat down and spoke about it until we both decided to break things off. Both of us in tears but it was for the best. One thing I forgot to mention was that I've been depressed for about 6 yrs now. I have anxiety and depression and part of my relationship with him I was not doing that well. But I always gave him my love, attention, and care. I did my best. When we broke things off he wanted to play victim and say that part of the reason why we broke apart was because of my illnesses just to cover the fact that he was not over her. He confessed that before me he was single for a yr then he met me. He thought he was over her but he wasn't. I was hurt, broken, used, and shattered. He basically used me to try to forget her and heal himself because he clearly didn't heal that time he was single. He also said that I'm the nicest most caring woman he's ever been with. That nobody has treated him the way I did. But that it just won't work out between us. Then he said "Now with this I'm not saying I'm going back to her, I just need some time alone I'm not ready to date. I need to be alone for some time." I said I get it it's understandable. He said sorry idk how many times that day and I said I forgive him but I don't forget. In reality I didn't get to have the proper closer I wanted I felt like I should've expresssed everything he put me through the pain I felt but I said nothing. 2 weeks after that we didn't speak. I had alot of anxiety attacks due to him. That night we broke things off and he confessed all of that to me I had a full blown anxiety attack. He knew this was hard on me didn't bother to see how I was doing.

So 2 weeks after on valentines day I still had him on Facebook the way I get out of class and check my Facebook. First thing I see is a picture of him with his ex wife having dinner at a restaurant. She originally had the picture and tagged him so everyone can see. On the picture it said "Happy valentines day baby thank you for making my days happier." Everyone started commenting on the picture very confused. They said what? she responded with we're back together and so happy. Some people congradulated them and others didn't comment. I went to the bathroom and started crying. I was in so much pain. I still loved him. Never had I loved someone like I love him despite everything that happened. I know you guys are going to say well you broke things off with him yea I did it was both of our decision but things were getting worse. But I felt betrayed, used, disrespected, I felt like I wasn't worthy, and my selft esteem went down.

Months after that probably like 3 or 4 months after they moved in together. A few months after that they announce they are having a baby. It's been a year and so since all of this happened and I'm still healing. I only Only dated once and I have issues trusting men. I am a lot stonger, mature, wiser, and confident. I am at peace with myself. I am comfortable being on my own and don't want a relationship any time soon. I'm still healing. I made a promise to myself to be more assertive to not let anyone use me, bring me down, hurt me, or make me feel inferior. Him on the other hand still follows me on instagram and views my stories. I don't see any of his stuff I don't have him on any of my social media. Anything that I know about him is because my sister tells me because they were really close friends since they were teenagers so they still talked. Until this day they still talk and he sends her pics of his new baby idk why. I never ask to see them or care but I guess a part of me hasn't healed because I kept alot of things inside I was never one to speak up for myself. I didn't have the proper closure. I will never understand why he went back to her after she cheated and caused him so much pain. A kid should never be a reason for you to go back with a toxic person and a person who doesn't love you. I gave him my genuine love and care. I knew he had went through alot of pain because of her. I took care of his heart while all he did was use me. The one who broke you cannot heal you...

Thoughts and comments please gladly appreciated. Thank you for taking time to read this.