am i being abused??

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so ive been living w my boyfriend for 3 months now & its been very hard for me. i constantly feel alone & isolated from my “old” life ... i miss doing fun girl things & just having freedom .. my boyfriend is very jealous & im seeing it alot more now .. whenever i leave the house to be w family or bestfriend he gets extremely upset & will ignore me .. he’s constantly accusing me of doing something else & im tired of hearing it so im stopping going out now . i just feel myself changing , im not happy anymore i feel like im loosing my own happiness being practically locked in .. anybody give me honest advice please!! be brutally honest or anything i wanna gear opinions , advice , experiences anything please ...

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I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I was in a similar relationship before where my boyfriend didn't want me hanging out with other people unless he was there. He was manipulative and jealous too. When I went to college, he would constantly be texting and calling me to see what I was doing, who I was with, was I drinking, were there other guys around, etc. It was awful and I felt so unhappy. And he made me feel miserable, called me names, accused me of cheating because he was so insecure. I left him, which he made very difficult, but it was the best thing for me. Not just for my happiness, but my health and well being. I don't want to tell you what to do but I think you deserve to be treated better. I'm happy you told your story and you're reaching out for advice. It shows you're strong and wise.  Don't let anyone tell you or make you feel like you don't deserve to be loved and respected. ♥️

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Please if you can't get out right now then get yourself on your feet and get out. My ex husband was very much like that and it went from ignoring and accusing to demanding that I not go out even with my family to physically and sexually abusing me when I even asked to leave the house. It gets way worse quickly. Please dear, I am pleading with you to get out before it gets to that point. You are a strong woman and you don't "need" a man to take care of yourself. Get on your feet, start really enjoying life, and trust me when I say that there are a lot more great non abusive guys out there who would be lucky to find a strong and independent women. Please leave though as soon as you can because your boyfriend is changing quickly and it will only get worse even if he claims that he will change for the better, don't fall for it like so many of us have before.

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Your already giving in! Always always keep in contact with family when ever you feel like it. Don’t give him what he wants, when it’s not reasonable. This will get worst of you don’t separate yourself quickly. You can’t change the way he is. 
So this relationship can go many ways. First off, he can either turn and do what he thinks your doing behind his back. Meaning he’s probably been the cheater or has been cheated on. Or he can continue this controlling behavior to the point where he may want to physically hold you with him and can get violent. And the worst case scenario, the old “If I can’t have you, no one can.” This is when it’s sometimes too late to get out of the relationship. 
Your still ok, physically. And hopefully still mentally. Tell your family, even though you don’t want them to dislike him. Don’t keep this to yourself. Keep ties with any close friends. Don’t show him that he’s got you isolated! That’s the way these things get ugly or dangerous. Have a talk with him, explain how it’s not good for you mentally to not be able to talk to family when ever they/you want. And sit back and notice his reaction. Only you know how bad this can end up and if your feeling this bad make plans to move. Good luck and keep us updated. ♥️

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Honestly I would get out while you can.... I was in a very similar situation except he kept accusing me of cheating along with everything else he was doing... I had 0 friends when we were together because he thought I was cheating on him with them... my friends are mostly guys cause I get along better with them then girls... Long story short found out he cheated on me and now I have a restraining order for everything he did after we broke up...

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I’m really sorry you’re from through this and yes this is a form of mental abuse. A lot of the times mental abusers become physical abusers so please keep yourself safe and put together all your strength to remove yourself from the relationship.

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whoa big red flag. get out now!

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Isolating your partner and cutting them off from their support system is a classic part of the cycle of abuse. If something feels wrong, listen to your instincts and remove yourself from the situation. I didn’t for a long time and wish I had.

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Ditch him. My ex was like that and he ended up physically abusing me. It’s manipulation and mental abuse.

am i being abused??

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