He threatened me because I said no

I just wanted to share what happened to me the other week because I feel like I might feel a little better about this situation if I post it somewhere.

I met this guy on tinder, and spoke to him for a while. He was super sweet and humble. After a while we decided to hang out and things got a little heavy. We didn’t have sex but we did a whole lot of other x rated things, including oral. He recorded some of it on his phone which was a red flag for me, but I have a real problem with saying no (which I understand is a huge deal that I need to work on).

Anyways, things turned sour pretty quickly after that night. He became really aggressive towards me and acted like he owned me. I know a few of his cousins and he tried to make me stop talking to them, and when I said no, he said I was a disgusting slut and that I wasn’t worth the effort he was putting in. We stopped talking after that.

After a couple of months, I wanted to message him to apologise about the way things ended, even though it wasn’t my fault at all. We live in the same area and I didn’t want to be constantly scared to run into someone I had an issue with. We reconciled and he was super sweet again.

He asked to hang out again and I stupidly said “maybe,” again because I didn’t want to upset him by saying no. He then decided that we were going to meet the next day at 9pm, but I hadn’t agreed to the plans. I kept telling him, “I’m not sure, we’ve only just started talking again.. things ended so badly last time.” I explained it made me a bit uneasy because I find him unpredictable and scary at times.

When I finally gave him a definite no, he got so angry at me. Called me a slut, and again that I wasn’t worth effort. He then told me he had sex with one of my friends. Honestly, I didn’t really care because I’m not a jealous person and we weren’t even dating. I didn’t answer.

The next morning, he sent me this:

When I said no, he said this:

So i was initially super freaked out, but after a day I decided I didn’t just want to sit around and hope he didn’t share any of the videos. I headed to the police station to ask if I had any options to stop this crazy fuck from sharing sexually explicit material of me without my consent.

I have grounds to have a “family violence protection order” which in Australia is similar to a restraining order. It would simply state that if he were to post the videos, he will be arrested.

Of course it doesn’t stop him, but I feel a sense of security now that the police are aware of the situation. Still super uneasy about this but if he posts anything, I will ruin him LOL. (Legally, of course. In Melbourne we have laws against revenge porn/violence, blackmail & harassment over mobile phone).

Thanks for listening!

UPDATE: So the crazy guy’s uncle who’s about 15 years older than me just added me “randomly” on Snapchat (unaware that I know who he is) and is calling me hot & saying he wants to get to know me. I’m assuming he got my Snapchat from his insane nephew, and that he has also probably seen the videos. I don’t give my Snapchat our freely lol. I’ve heard pretty weird things about this family recently. They’re super perverted and have family gang bangs- as in the uncle and three of four of his nephews like to have sex with the same girl at the same time. I think it’s a power thing. They think it’s hilarious. Just thought I’d share an update. Nothing else has really happened- they’re just gross lol