What would you do in this situation? Was I really on the wrong?

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My daughter is in 9th grade so she’s 15. She forgot to take her lunch to school with her the other day so she called me and I said I could stop at Dunkin Donuts and bring her something. She asked if her friend could get something too so I said yes. The girls each got a bagel with cream cheese and a fruit smoothie. I took it to them and all was fine. Well the girls mother called me and bitched me out. She said that she had the girl on a diet to lose weight and the carbs I gave her threw off her daily count. I was really surprised because the girl is thin. I just couldn’t believe she was talking like that about such a young girl who is already skinny. I apologized to get her off the phone and to make peace because our daughters do cheerleading together. But I don’t think I was wrong. The girl is old enough to know about food allergies and restrictions so I don’t think I really crossed a line.

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No, I don’t think so. You were being nice and handled the mothers reaction maturely. Feel bad for the girl though, and the inevitable body issues her mother is drilling into her young brain.

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you didn't but it's not your kid. You did the right thing by apologizing and minding your own business

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That Mom sounds crazy. You’re okay. Haha 14 is definitely old enough for the kid to make some decisions.

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I don’t think you were in the wrong at all. I had a friend in high school who was on 3 swim teams a year so she was a little bulky but it was muscle. Well her mom thought she was too big and decided to put her on a diet. She was actually starving her due to the amount of exercise my friend got. So her dad would sneak her food (he didn’t want to start a fight with the mom, that’s how controlling this woman was) and I would share my lunch at school with her a lot of times. I think it’s absolutely terrible for a child’s mental health when parents put them on a restrictive diet. Eating healthier is one thing, restricting their calories when they’re hungry is another. From the sounds of it that girl probably really appreciated that bagel. And as you said she was plenty old enough to know if she was allergic to anything or if something was a health risk.

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No if she is already skinny her mom is gearing her towards  anorexia.

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This makes me so sad that a mother would have her 15 year old on a diet (for any reason other than dr. Recommended health reasons). Plus a 15 year old is old enough to make choices on what they eat, so if her daughter ate something she wasn’t “supposed to” that’s on her not you. I’m sure there are plenty of unhealthy options in the lunch room. Does the mom call & bitch out the lunch lady if her daughter picks pizza over salad?

What would you do in this situation? Was I really on the wrong?

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