His fear of disappointing

I've been with my man for over 6 years and he recently opened up to me about his fear of disappointing me in the bedroom.

This fear comes from a conversation I had with him years ago. I read somewhere that I needed to be open and honest with him about how we feel sexually and I guess I was a bit to blunt and selfish at the time that I didnt fully understand what I was saying and that it could effect our sex life in a negative way.

I wasnt satisfied sexually and I wanted to improve on it. The way I did it was wrong I wanted him to step up his game and I seriously knocked his man hood. I was selfish and just expected a one-sided effort from him.

As time went by I forgot but it really hurt him to the point where he doesnt want to have sex because he would rather let me be disappointed by him saying no rather than putting in the effort and being stuck in his own head.

Its been years and he only told me now because we are trying to save our broken and bruised relationship.

ive hurt him so bad by trying. how can we move past from this. what can we do to fix this.