adhd and anxiety

Im so frustrated. I have been struggling with adhd since about 23 before then i struggle i just didnt have a bunch of stress or care about what i was doing. Now im just so frustrated all the time I have impulse anger the most that turns into crying cause this all affects my family and my kids. I started stkmulants and they help the only problem is they my calm cool anxiety spike from a 3 to a15!! it makes me skip meds,i get worried im gonna drop dead if i excersice or be home alone. My anxiety gives me chest pains and pins and needles. I rather live with my adhd than my amxiety......but it affects my kids and idk what to do. Ive already talked to my doctor and she hasnt suggested anything for anxiety....no therapy meds etc nothing. im at a boiling point