Why do people think it's ok to comment on your weight when you're slim but not when you're overweight?

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Over the years I've had people tell me that I don't eat enough or that I don't need to diet because I'm skinny already. I'm slim but not skinny and always have a couple of fat rolls which I try to get rid of by eating sensibly. I would never comment on a bigger person's figure or eating habits in this manner. Has anyone else experienced this?

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Commenting on anyone's body is just plain rude in my opinion. I really hate body shaming. It needs to stop. Everyone needs to learn how to be happy with themselves and stop being concerned about what others look like.

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People are arguing that calling someone "skinny" is just as bad as calling someone "fat". I have to disagree on that. Because we live in a society where 'skinny' is what is accepted and skinny is what people strive for (to an extent). And in our society, people seem to view 'fat' as the worst thing a person can possibly be. Although I don't see any reason anyone should point out someone else's size either way, There is a huge difference between saying someone is fat an saying they're skinny. One is seen as ideal and one is seen as negative.

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I don't know how I feel about this topic, because growing up it was all oh you gained weight, you're getting a little chubby, then it's you lost so much weight... are you anorexic?  Now it's you lost weight again, (Sick or depressed).  Most of these comments are usually concern from the family, but it's annoying, my ex used to use it as a kind of insult like "you'd be so much hotter if you gained weight"

It's annoying, but for people I don't know to comment on my weight?  Who cares, my weight doesn't affect their life in any way, and I hate people that do it, I used to give my ex shit for it all the time, he'd be like gross what a fatty or something, so I'd just say so?  You're fat too, then he'd get self conscious so I'd be like: "now how does that make you feel?"

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I get told and I'm to skinny all the time and usually the comments are from larger girls..... I don't sit there and tell then they are to fat and need to eat less..... I'm happy with my body the way it is.  
I think they say it so maybe I'll gain weight and there will be one less skinny person in the world.... idk the say skinny girls are mean I think the big ones are just as mean.

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When I was a teen, the school accused me of being anorexic because you could see my ribs. I was 5ft and 100ish pounds probably. My moronic step mother thought they were right and proceeding to make me feel like shit in public about it.

I ate nothing but junk food, meat and soda during those years. Never exercised. Wasn't my fault. My metabolism caught up with me though.

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Body shaming is horriable. I been made fun of my whole life. It made me have tougher skin and not care what people think but not everybody is like that. Nobody should be made fun of by how they look.

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I agree with you. Body shaming needs to stop. It doesn't matter if your skinny or overweight, I don't think it's appropriate to comment on anyone's weight whether you think it's a good or bad compliment.
I've been overweight the majority of my life and when I slimmed down, everyone said how good I looked etc....that hurts just as much.

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It took me 30 years to be comfortable in my own skin. I think because of social media, Hollywood etc we have a false perception of how one should look. I have never fell into the body shaming stuff as I feel crushing someone's self esteem is terrible. I am in the fitness industry and have found those that partake in body shaming are just showing signs of jealousy. I look at those people and just say "bless their hearts" because deep down they are sick and sad people. Ignore what others say, we live in a cruel world. :)

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I have had comments like that my whole life. It makes me feel so uncomfortable, even when people are saying that to be nice it's still awkward. Most people wouldn't go up to someone a little overweight and make a comment. It's awkward and incomfortable whether your skinny or heavy.

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Contrary if a woman has curves she gets made fun of. I'm average weight and everytime I see my family they say I look huge and disgusting. However when they look at my sister who is slimmer, they say she's beautiful and gorgeous and every nice compliment in the book. Words are hurtful whether your thin or bigger. As long as you love your body it doesn't matter what others think or say.

Why do people think it's ok to comment on your weight when you're slim but not when you're overweight?

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