Ok ok let me give y'all some back history. I've been with this guy for 3 years we have 1 1/2 year old daughter. From the moment we started living together which was around may 2016 I've have always have had to tell him to help with things as in. Washing dishes, taking out the trash, washing clothes, folding clothes, putting the clothes away ( yea I made the "doing the laundry in a 3 part thing because that what he thinks it is. If he washes the clothes I HAVE to tell him to FOLD them. If he folds them I have to tell him to PUT THEM AWAY.). I have to tell him to clean the room just ETC. Basically you know how women, if we see something that need to be attended...." Oh laundry needs to be done, welp I'm gonna go it. All 3 parts too ". " Oh the house needs to be picked up? Of course I'm going to do it." Yet for most or some men they either don't do it or need to be told multiple times to do so. From day one I have always had to tell him to help out. I do it by myself. Without him "having to tell me". Why? Because I see it needs to be done. Why should I have to ask him to do it. Even when I do ask him. he complains the whole damn time and he does it half ass. I mean totally half added where it's not oh I bring a neat freak and everything need to be perfect. No it's. 'Let me throw this in a corner, push this underneath the bed, throw everything on top of each other instead of putting it where it belongs.' We have talked about it and he has just told me. "I feel like that's just kinda how I am. And It's like once I get tired of it or bothered by it then I'll do it." ( even then half assed). It's like no dude you can't do it when YOU feel like it. You have a toddler, and you're an adult dude like come on. I have tried the whole then you shouldn't clean his clothes type thing or clean anything but I can't leave that type of mess around with my daughter running around everywhere. And it makes me so mad to the point where I cry because I shouldn't have to as this grown ass man to help when he makes the mess too. I shouldnt have to tell him multiple times like he is my fucking child.. All I can think when saying these things to myself is, how do other women put up with this? I am seriously contemplating of breaking up with him. It's not a little thing for me. plus the fact that I have been tell him since we first been together and til doing so til this damn day. I don't wanna feel like I'm settling just because this is the first good guy that has came along in my life. Don't get me wrong he is great seriously but it's these little things that make me take a step back and think of I'm settling. He has NEVER cheated on me. He doesn't even talk to girls AT ALL. I just I need to hear other people's opinions.