My husband and I have been struggling with some of his family lately. Everyone in his family other than his parents get along great with me. We spend tons of time with them, and I’ve never noticed any dislike or discontent towards me. His parents, however, do not like how we went about our marriage ceremony, and hold onto a grudge to this day.

My husband and I got into a heated discussion about how to go about potentially repairing the situation with his folks. When I said, “I’m not sure it can be repaired. We either have to live with it or don’t.” I could tell this frustrated him, and he said, “I fucked up my whole life for you.”

Those eight words have sent me into a downward spiral, and I’ve been crying for over an hour. He tried to apologize and say he didn’t mean it, but I told him I wasn’t going to talk with him right now, let alone this. I don’t see myself forgetting what he said, nor believing he didn’t mean it. Is it crazy for me to feel like he holds resentment towards me? That maybe he really feels that way and it’s something we can’t come back from?

Any opinions, encouragement, thoughts would be appreciated.