am I over reacting? please give me your opionion

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so me & my s.o have always had problems because of his nephew... when It was just us he would bring him over to spend the night (we live with my parents so we only have a small bedroom & one bed i was extremely uncoftrable sharing a bed with a big kid! almost 10 yrs old) always pick him up take him where ever he wanted even if we had already had plans for the evening... sO I had a baby which is now 3 yrs old so the sleep overs stopped... untill yesterday... I am now pregnant again almost 6months all I want to do is be home watching a good show resting relaxing ect... & he brings him over to spend the night again! so I now have to wear long pjs a bra & feel uncoftrable even while I sleep because hes here! I was super mad the whole time & my s.o still has the nerve to ask me why I'm mad WTF seriously????

so how do I bring this up with out starting a fight or sounding like an evil bitch..? like we've had this problem before 3 yrs ago & I just want him to understand where Im coming from without starting a fight...
ok one last thing we spend every weekend with his nephew we are either cooking out with his parents going out to eat or just taking him out where ever every weekend.... which I don't mind too much so yes I'm selfish I atleast want nights just for me & my little family! 😒 we are still living with my parents so its even more crowded now with a 3 yr old & my huge belly 💁

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Yah calm down. It’s okay. Just be uncomfortable for that moment. He obviously cares for his nephew a lot, so let him enjoy it for sure!

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I don’t think you are over reacting at all. If it’s once in a blue moon it shouldn’t be that big of a deal... BUT he should be sleeping in his own area. If your boyfriend/husband wants to have a sleep over with him they can camp out in the living room or something. You have every right to want your own space + family time. I would come up with some sort of arrangement. Like once bi weekly he has a sleep over with his nephew BUT you should not have to share a room with them. I don’t think that’s fair to you or your 3 year old.

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Yeah you are over reacting, get over it and let him be a good uncle. Not everything revolves around you.

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Make him sleep on the floor make a little bed for him 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I kind of go through the same thing .. its annoying wanting your own space & not having it but I brush it off... as long as its not every weekend or too often once in a blue moon shouldn't hurt its annoying yes but w.e specially if you only have one room ! let him know you feel uncoftrable yall can take him out during the day but no more sleep overs

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Do you stilllive with your parents ? If not can’t he sleep with your 3 year old? Just sounds like. Guy who really cares for his nephew might be the only positive person on his life you never really know

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I completely understand where you are coming from. My sister-in-law used to ask us to babysit all the time and our nephew had to sleep over every time...EVERY single time. I tried to compromise with my husband and told him I’ll watch him during the day anytime, but not overnight. He could not say no to her! We have a 16 month old so she doesn’t ask us as much anymore, but the whole thing always starts a fight.

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Would it help if he atleast asked you first? (I mean you’ll probably have to say yes but atleast he is considering your feelings? And might allow you to say no atleast once?)

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it's nice hes such a good uncle to him, and it sounds important to him. I feel you on the hormonal over reactions, that's me like all the time now. but this really is an over reaction

am I over reacting? please give me your opionion

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