Group for TTC #1 in your 40s

It does not really bother me about other moms TTC their 3rd, 4th child but I think their experiences are too much different than for us that have none, and wishing our miracle at this time in life. Most of the stories I read abt success conceiving after 40 are for those who had children earlier in their lives😔😔😔....that give me, and others no hope. This will be a special space for us TTC #1 in our 40th. Any successful story will be so uplifting.

I'm with you all! Being 43, almost 44 and still trying for my first is harder each day that passes. I still have hope, though that clock ticks louder and louder with each failed cycle. Sometimes I feel that I made all the wrong decisions in life and it is my fault I am in this position and there is nothing I can do to fix things. The feeling of wishing you could turn back time is one of the most futile and horrible feelings there is and it is something that not many people can understand.

I agree!! So many moms that always got pregnant easy/naturally & have 2-3 kids already. And now at 42 they are sad that kid #4 is taking longer 😢 😭

I am 46 years old and trying for my 1st. I always knew in my heart that I one day be a mother but I wasn't ready till I met my husband. I grew up without my biological father and I knew that I never wanted that for my child. In my 1st marriage, I was physically & emotionally abused so I prevented pregnancy. Once I got divorced, I was busy healing and having fun. I knew single mother was not for me, so I waited for my time. My time came in 2017 and we have been trying for 10 months. To me, a pregnancy is a pregnancy regardless of past pregnancies. I love hearing success stories and if the story is like mine, then yes I love to hear about that too. I haven't given up cause God hasn't given up on me. I feel in my heart, that it will happen and that is what I will go with.

Great idea - I am 40 and TTC for my first. I’ve never felt that massive urge to have kids, but always thought I would probably end up having them. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and we’ve been trying properly for just over a year. Neither of us have felt ready until now, and it feels like a cruel joke that we may have left it too late.

Agreed...it is brutal for those of us who may never be able to have kids and comes across poorly in some cases.

I’m 40 and TTC my first as well.

I’m 43 and We’ve been TTC our first baby for the past 8 years. It’s nice to see there really are others out there in a similar position as me. TTC baby #1 in your 40’s is a whole different ballgame.....hopefully it ends well for all of us. 😊

Totally with you on that! I feel out of place with all these experienced mothers ttc after 40. TTC for the first time after 40 is a completely different story. Baby dust to all of you ladies 👶🏻💫✨

I agree in 41 and been trying for some time for my first