This is going to be long. Please bare with me.

My boyfriend has a son. He is the most amazing little boy. I love him with everything I have and have raised him like my own. We have full custody of him and my bf has had full custody always. I refuse to call the woman who brought him into the world a mother because truthfully shes not. She is a womb donor and that’s all I can give her credit for. In the beginning I always tried to give her the benefit of the doubt when she canceled or showed up late on her ONE DAY A WEEK VISITATION. Tried to understand why she brought him home early, missed his important dr appointments, didn’t see him but maybe 3 hours when he was in the er/hospital for 2 days, only showed up to his bday party for MAYBE an hour even though it was her day off and she had nothing to do. I tried to somehow see that maybe she was struggling and was actually a good mom. That was before I realized her older daughter (my bf is not the father) is a special needs child and she never gets her any more. She does not have custody of either child she brought into the world and doesn’t even want it. She is incredibly selfish. Stayed with a man for months even after he was abusive to her and her son. And now! She has decided to move out of the country to be with a man she met on the Internet and abandon her children.

I am so upset because while I know it will be for the best I can’t wrap my head around the fact she’s okay with just walking away from the babies she brought into the world. My boyfriend plans to approach her and tell her he’s done caring about her and what she does but if she moves away from her son like that she needs to go ahead and sign to terminate her parental rights to her child. He doesn’t want her to leave and think she can come back whenever she pleases and just walk back into her sons life. That is not in the best interest of the child. Is it wrong for him to ask that of her? Is the immense amount of anger I feel toward her wrong? I’m just at a loss of what else we can do about her. All she is doing is hurting these kids. And I won’t stand for it any longer. Something has to be done I just don’t know legally what we can do about a dead beat woman.