Parenting styles

Lauren • 28. Married 1/17/14. Had our first baby 1/14/16! Second due July 2017
My husband and I are expecting. And with random parenting styles being brought up... We have very different views. He's military so he's going to be more strict and I was raised with a stay at home mom (very patient). 
He said he was raised not to cry (unless his leg was coming off) and I think a kid can cry as along its not for a silly reason like candy. There's a lot more that's just the most recent.
Any parents out there that found a way around different parenting styles?