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Question

19, virgin.  I’m not sure what to think about sex, I have people telling me it’s nothing magical, and others  that it changed their lives. 
I’m going to do it soon, but I’m not sure what to expect. What are your experiences?

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I lost my virginity when I was 19. I had wanted to wait until I found someone special, but around 19 was when I just *knew* I was ready to have sex. Just make sure you lose it to someone you trust (I didn't)!! I lost my virginity at a party (totally my choice, I wasn't drunk), and yeah, it hurt pretty bad even with lube. He had to stop until the pain subsided, and then he continued. But as things went on, I was able to get more into it. It still hurt when he tried to go too deep, but I worked through it. I felt the most pleasure when I got on top (after I was used to it, you should be on the bottom when he first goes in so you can be comfortable), and oh man 😍 I felt fire in all the right places. And about missionary position and it being my first time, this is about to get TMI and embarrassing..... once the initial pain had passed, I felt like I was either going to pee or shit on the bed😆! So I kept clenching super tight to try not to. I don't think I would have, it just felt that way cause I wasn't used to a penis being that close to my intestines or bladder 😂😂.
And about being with someone you trust. The guy I lost my virginity to told me a little after we had sex that he just wanted to be friends with benefits because he actually liked this other girl who was out of state at the time, and pretty much only slept with me to see if he was over her. They are currently dating, and I haven't spoken to him in about a year. So as long as you trust your partner, then go for it and just relax! Focus on what feels good and tell him if something hurts (or if it feels great!)
Also, everyone's experience is different. Some people don't even have pain their first time. So just be safe and have fun! And use lube if it's around 💦.

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Expect physical pain and possibly emotional consequences. It can be fun though and even very special (whether it is your first time or not). Just make sure you go into with the right mindset and that you feel comfortable with everything you are doing

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well I mean, it's kinda not going to help you formulate an opinion based off of everyone else's opinion. everyone has different experiences and feelings about it.

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prepare for disappointment. I lost mine two years ago and I still think sex sucks. 
That might not be the case for you and others though, meh.

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Until I met my current SO I was basically having sex with guys for attention and because it made me feel validated which is pretty bad, so just be careful and know your intentions

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Honestly, my first time wasn’t really all that special or magical. I was 19 and a half when I lost my virginity. The sex was good, but it wasn’t anything special. I just think after 19 years it didn’t really matter anymore. I dated the guy for 3.5 years after that and we had much better sex then our first time together.

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everyone says different things because it is different for everyone and every sexual partner as well. it depends on stuff like your libido and how you interpret your sexual experiences and how important it is to you. someone might think theres not much to sex just because they personally dont put much weight to it. like me, ive had really amazing sex and ive had mediocre sex. im not a hugely sexual person so it doesnt really matter to me. other people put a lot of importance in sex and let it determine stuff like how they pick their significant others. some people want to wait to have sex and others cant wait to do it. what youre going to feel and how youre going to feel about it is up to you and how you view things.

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Alot of people will say different things, but because of how some say it will be painful, I'd suggest having lube on hand. It can be painful, because you're nervous and not fully relaxed/wet and lube can partially help with this. Also, depending on if you want it to be special or not, you can partially control this with who you sleep with, e.g going on dating apps for a fwb, one night stand or a actual date. Don't worry what other people will think, it isn't their life to live it's yours.

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Just make sure you are really attracted to your partner and can trust them - and lube lube lube lube

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