wishing bad on people (possible trigger)

so the other day i had a reply to one of my comments where the person had said something along the lines of "lets hope you dont get beat, maybe then youll change your mind" mind you this person doesnt know who i am, much less even live in the same state as me ( instagram drama lol). anyway, she had said this after my comments about domestic abuse and how people can be forgiven or fogive their abusers. not gonna lie what she said bothered me, i couldnt give a shit about my abuser but i forgave him. i felt as if she was implying i should be abused, or in a sense hoping i become a victim, this brought up a whole mess of unresolved feelings and i did kinda get depressed for a couple days.

it got me thinking and i thought id get an outside perspective. how do you guys feel about "speakong things into exisitence" or "the power of words"? do you feel it applies to what others say about u as well, or do you feel only you can impact your own life?