My best friends Husband has the hots for me? HELP

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My best friend (we will call her Stephanie) and I have known each other for a little over a year, and she was married before I met her. I haven’t seen them for about a month and they just bought a house, and her husband invited me to go to a movie with her and him, I ended up hanging out the majority of the day and it just felt really really lax and cool and like it used to be! After I leave I get a snap chat from him talking about how he has to “speak with me 😏 privately” and he comes out and says that he’s attracted to me, and I told him that it I wasn’t fair to Me, but her importantly it wasn’t fair to Stephanie, because they’re LDS and he made a promise to her AND god to be faithful for all eternity, and idk. I just need advice on what to do....should I tell her out right? Talk to him further? Just totally distance myself? He’s already cheated on her once and she’s stuck with him, so I’m afraid that if I tell her she might just totally cut me out of her life, because the church basically teaches that husbands can do no wrong and it’s the woman’s fault for temping him...ugh 😫🤭😵

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I’m gonna be “that” person because I’m LDS and the church definitely does not teach that. There are actually very clear guidelines that teach 
1. Everyone has their own free agency and will be judged according to their OWN actions. 
2. Adultery in ANY form is never okay by man or woman.  
I would definitely tell her, she has every right to know. She may be in denial and cut you out completely or you could be the one to finally help her leave ya know?

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Damn that’s crazy. Men are freaking sociopaths. She has to know what he is up to like he obviously has no intentions on being faithful to your friend you really do have to tell her. I know a woman that just found out her husband of 30 years was cheating on her their entire marriage. She found proof that he cheated on her the week they got back from their honeymoon, and now she is devastated because she’s in her 50’s and wasted all of her young years on this asshole thinking that he was a good husband you can’t let your friend be ignorant to this.

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I’d tell her, but let her know it made you uncomfortable of him to do that.
Block him on everything. And try not to see him anymore
I’m sorry your going through this.
If I were you I’d look for a new church.. because what they’re telling you is a load of CRAP! And get her out of that church too

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Tell her! She has the right to know and then it's her choice on what she wants to do.
Do not talk to him anymore because then you're risking coming across as though you're encouraging him (even though you're not) or he could use it against you and say something like 'why did you keep coming back to talk to me'. If you don't talk to him then you're covering your back.

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If you were my friend and that happened I would want to know. Sure, I might hate you a little bit at first, but when my anger is directed at the right person, I would be grateful for you.

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You need to tell her. If he's bold enough to come on to you, her best friend, you best believe he's going to be trying the same thing with another woman. Do your friend a favor. Besides, in the Bible it says that it's ok to divorce if there's adultry, so there's no rules being broken if she decides to leave.

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I would not tell her. No point except to make her miserable if she's not going to leave him. Plus she'll cut you off and honestly it sounds like she really needs your friendship. Perhaps just spend time only with her, if possible. If that cannot happen, then distance yourself. No matter what, don't be alone with her husband and block him on all social media. He is a pig!

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I wouldn’t tell her and don’t ever speak to him again. Cause most likely she’s gna stay with him.

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You need to tell her. If my husband was hitting on my best friend, and she didn’t tell me, I’d be pissed and cut her out of my life for not telling me! If you tell her, she may be understanding and leave him, or if she does try to stay with him, she may be thankful for you telling her the truth and y’all can still stay good friends! You definitely need to distance yourself from him and DO NOT even be around him, even with her! Just spend time with her alone and definitely tell her the truth...she deserves it.

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Marriage isn’t permanent lol. So she can leave him. Don’t victim blame. Tell her and help her leave him. That’s not fair.