To make a long story short, my ex started acting fishy and distant right when i found out i was pregnant, which i don’t understand bc he wanted to get me pregnant again so bad. We used to be off and on all the time a few years ago, then i got pregnant with our son (now 2) and he had just gotten in a new relationship right before i found out. We remained friends throughout my pregnancy and he promised to be there for our child blah blah blah. He was there physically, but not financially. They broke up and we got back together when our son was about 2 months old, and broke up about 3 months later. He went to jail right before my son turned one and when he came out, he poured his heart out to me about how he wants his family back he’s sorry jail made him realize so much blah blah blah. I was dumb and took him back, and things were actually amazing and better then ever. But that’s when he started acting weird, when i got pregnant, so i left. After i left; he’d text me saying he’s sorry he loves me and wants our family but i didn’t fall for it again. Eventually, he just stopped texting me. It’s now been 4 ish months since I’ve heard from him. He doesn’t check up on our son, or our unborn child. Our son just turned two last month, he didn’t text or call to wish him a happy birthday or even post something on Facebook, which he always is posting stuff so that pissed me off. He messaged me an hour ago telling me to answer my phone, but hasn’t called. I want nothing to do with him. He’s been in and out of our son’s life since day one and just when i thought he manned up and things were going to be how i always wished, he proved me wrong. I’m dumb for taking him back and getting pregnant by him again, i know. However i wouldn’t change my children for the world. They make my life 10x better and i don’t regret either of them.

Am i selfish to ignore him completely? I’ve lost all respect for him knowing he could go from seeing his son every day for 5 months and then go 5 months without even asking about his well being. Of course I’d love my son to have his father in his life, i grew up without mine and didn’t want that for him bc i always wondered how it’d be to have my real dad. But the way he’s been, he’s going to do nothing but break his heart. I’d rather him grow up without him period then have his dad make promises he doesn’t keep, go months without seeing him, etc. My son wouldn’t even remember him if he were to come around now.

Am i wrong for this? Or should i talk to him and see what he wants.